tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post1402353881509041146..comments2023-06-29T09:42:26.046-05:00Comments on Sentiments from an Enslaved Sissy: Ideals, Enjoyment, and Female Pleasure in D/sfur sissyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-21614474305453010782010-07-24T10:40:50.045-05:002010-07-24T10:40:50.045-05:00Thank you for the praise, Lady Grey.
I wrote a fo...Thank you for the praise, Lady Grey.<br /><br />I wrote a follow-up to this post already, trying to gather my thoughts together with where I was trying to go with it in the first place. I look forward to any comments you might have on that one as well. I have mentored a few newer Dommes in the past and trying to teach the pleasure in being wicked is one of the hardest things to do.<br /><br />I agree that the "he wants you to fuck with him" concept is one that is rarely grasped or utilized. I was trying to find a more eloquent way of wording it but that was the best that I could do. I'm glad the concise albeit slightly crude statement meets your approval.<br /><br />I will definitely check out that post on A Domestic Domme. I'm a bit behind on my reading and writing right now due to things going on in my life.<br /><br />Your comments make me feel quite good about my writing. I can't help but wish that I had more readers, but I can appreciate quality over quantity :)<br /><br />Thanks again.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-76644791022795737892010-07-24T06:58:20.925-05:002010-07-24T06:58:20.925-05:00What a wonderful post, fur! You've said so mu...What a wonderful post, fur! You've said so much, and said it so well. It's so true that many subs simply can't verbalize or even face the truth about their desire to be tormented with difficult ways to do mundane tasks, held accountable, and punished if the task is not performed to his Dom's satisfaction. Nor can most budding Doms even imagine that such a scenario is not only acceptable but desirable.<br /><br />The rationalization that goes on in blogs written by subs who are never going to really get what they want is sad to witness, and your description of such rationalizations is "spot on" as the British love to say.<br /><br />The section of your post following the words "So how does it work for Her?" down to the penultimate paragraph should be required reading for any novice Dom, and is absolutely brilliant.<br />"He wants you to fuck with him" would make a great poster on the wall of any budding Dom. It's so basic, it's so true, that one can only shake one's head that it's so rarely understood.<br /><br />Let me share a few words from Barbara at "A Domestic Domme", a beautifully written and very intelligent blogsite in an entry entitled "Bitch? No, Just Confident!":<br /><br />"...allow me to direct a few words at women who are asked to be dominant by a lover. First of all, be honoured! Be very honoured! A man has trusted you enough to share his most hidden desires and fantasies with you. This is huge, since we all know that most men find it very difficult to communicate. So for God's sake, don't panic and loose your head. Of course you are taken aback, but listen to him. If you manage to suspend any judgement, this may very well be one of the most intimate moments you ever share with him. It may also be a start of something new and very special for the both of you."<br /><br />And later in the entry: "I'd also like to direct a few words at the men who are considering asking their lover to become dominant. What you are about to do, is one of the bravest things you have ever done or will ever do. It's wonderful that you put such trust in your partner. But be careful! You are about to confront her with a role in which she most likely never pictured herself. Most likely she will be very surprised that her partner harbours such desires. She may even become upset and feel betrayed that you mention this at the current point of the relationship and blame you that you should have mentioned it earlier. They key here is patience. I can not stress that enough. Be patient. If someone is about to parachute out of a plane for the first time, you don't just push them out of the plane and see how they get on. You instruct them, teach them techniques, tell them what to expect, do tandem jumps and only then do you allow someone to jump solo. A woman who is asked to be dominant is like someone parachuting into completely unknown territory. Don't expect her to know anything about it or understand what she is supposed to do."<br /><br />Sage advice, such as Barbara's and yours is precious and I hope that the people who need it most find both of your blogs and put the words to good use.Lady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795130564028111447noreply@blogger.com