tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post371701018871186467..comments2023-06-29T09:42:26.046-05:00Comments on Sentiments from an Enslaved Sissy: The Quest for Emotional Controlfur sissyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-8890331919151836202016-08-17T19:10:06.843-05:002016-08-17T19:10:06.843-05:00Thank you, Misty.
I try to defer them when I can ...Thank you, Misty.<br /><br />I try to defer them when I can and let them out when I can better deal with them. That initial punch to the face cam be a bit strong at times and can sometimes seem like every choice will suck.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-37920835159978624132016-08-17T15:57:20.121-05:002016-08-17T15:57:20.121-05:00Well, I'm all over the freakin' place, so ...Well, I'm all over the freakin' place, so I can't make sense of any of it. However, rarely, I can manage to detach myself from the situation (I push my feelings off to the side for a *short* time), which helps me to see things more clearly so that I can find a path through. <br /><br />Lmao..."It's like ordering a shit sandwich and getting hung up on what type of bread I want to eat it on." Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931554793023459482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-37219288077411340212016-08-17T14:27:15.278-05:002016-08-17T14:27:15.278-05:00Wonderful! I'll look for it there.Wonderful! I'll look for it there.Lady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795130564028111447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-7569166843881176042016-08-17T12:16:28.365-05:002016-08-17T12:16:28.365-05:00Lady Grey, I will post about it on my blog soon. :...Lady Grey, I will post about it on my blog soon. :-)lawyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11947031726118465940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-68615807230128762852016-08-17T09:52:03.364-05:002016-08-17T09:52:03.364-05:00I'm curious. What did you do with Gregory? H...I'm curious. What did you do with Gregory? How did you end up dealing with his excuses?Lady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795130564028111447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-39518189951179291952016-08-17T09:00:40.910-05:002016-08-17T09:00:40.910-05:00Thank you, Tina.
I guess what I'm looking for...Thank you, Tina.<br /><br />I guess what I'm looking for is a way to control that initial reaction before the coping process starts. I don't even know if it's possible but I wish it was. <br /><br />I usually do fine with rational coping after the fact unless it manages to wake up one of the demons, in which case the options are far less rational and more about survival.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-17378869255893087472016-08-17T00:01:05.484-05:002016-08-17T00:01:05.484-05:00Hmmmmm, my way of coping is: I ask myself is it re...Hmmmmm, my way of coping is: I ask myself is it really a shit sandwich?<br />I ask myself: did the other person really intend to hurt me?<br />Am I feeling hurt becausee of the actual things the other person said or did, or am I feeling hurt because old stuff in me has accidentally been triggered?<br /><br />Eg: I gave Gregory a very small writing assignment yesterday . Would have taken him a few minutes only, maybe 15 min. I woke up to an email from him making excuses to me why he could not do it.<br /><br />My first reaction:<br />I felt hurt. I felt unrespected. I feel like a fool. I feel like an idiot. I feel not valued and I feel angry. I feel like: I am too fucking stupid to even be a proper domme to the guy I love. he is doing what he wants, and I am like a suburban housewife who is pretending to be a domme..<br /><br />But now my process of coping starts by "sugarcoating" the thing for myself. By changing perspectives. By trying to be open minded. By trying to put myself in his shoes, by giving him the benefit of the doubt, by finding lessons in it for me. <br /><br />I am asking myself: what can I learn from this? What am I learning right now? why am I in such a situation right now?<br /><br />I do believe that allowing too many feelings of being hurt puts me in a victim position. Like: "he did something and now i can do nothing but feeling hurt." I need the feeling of being in control of my feelings. And (at least in theory, lol) I am trying not to give so much power over me to any person.<br /><br />Plus: my experience is: people rarely try to actually hurt me. Its more that they are dealing with their own pain and lashing out or acting in a not ideal way because they are overwhelmed by own fears. I, for me, prefer the idea of not reciprocating . For me, it is more interesting to be in control and big picture and forgiving. <br /><br />I honestly dont remember one person I hold a grudge against. In a way, I try to see all people as teachers. Of course, it is difficult, and sometimes I am struggling with it, but in the big scheme of things it is highly important for me to not let the actions or words of other people affect me too much. I am a criminal law defense attorney in my heart. I always try to find mitigating circumstances. Always. lawyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11947031726118465940noreply@blogger.com