tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post4280920949908151826..comments2023-06-29T09:42:26.046-05:00Comments on Sentiments from an Enslaved Sissy: The Dividing Line: Sadist vs. Sadistic Characteristicsfur sissyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-20919830854571115592015-10-24T00:57:27.178-05:002015-10-24T00:57:27.178-05:00I don't think I've ever posted a story.
...I don't think I've ever posted a story. <br /><br />If you wish to contact me directly my contact info is in my blogger profile.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-55418786140923693832015-10-15T05:51:07.169-05:002015-10-15T05:51:07.169-05:00Heey can I download some of your stories somewhere...Heey can I download some of your stories somewhere or will you write new once? ;) Would be really nice, text me if you would like to chat a bit or even wanna play a roleplay (facebook: Pelzmann Pelzwelt) (skype: furbondage (switzerland))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-82659608593320171512015-09-15T17:57:51.305-05:002015-09-15T17:57:51.305-05:00Thank you, Lady Grey, I always appreciate your tho...Thank you, Lady Grey, I always appreciate your thoughts on things.<br /><br />I probably bit off more than I could chew with this topic as it's really complicated and almost every situation is fairly unique. I think every Domme (and sub) is involved with a push/pull battle between various factors within themselves, some of which are purely internal, others external, and some based upon experience and time. Which of these factors end up "winning" the overall battle and the relative priority order of the others is what makes people so unique. <br /><br />A few of the factors that come to mind:<br />Emotional fulfillment<br />Sexual fulfillment<br />Fetish and fantasy drive<br />Fear and insecurity<br />Long-term life and relationship goals<br />Lifestyle relationship experience<br />The principles surrounding their introduction to the lifestyle<br />Rational point of view/Real life limitations<br /><br />I believe that fully embracing the hard core sadist role requires a few of those factors to have very little weight in the decision-making process. A Domme in a long-standing relationship founded upon D/s principles is more likely to be comfortable being a sadist than a newer Domme that has struggled finding a suitable sub and has lost confidence from being rejected or rejecting numerous potential suitors. For the latter, there's a number of these factors that may cause her to hold back.<br /><br />When there is little fear of a sub leaving, little insecurity with desires and "being evil," a long-standing secure relationship built on trust, shared life and relationship goals, etc., I think it's easier to "open the floodgates" and allow that side to flow freely and confidently. That is to say, I think most hardcore sadists exist only when the right factors line up in the right way, and many part sadists find themselves in that partial state due to the limitations of the more negative factors (and other times by choice).<br /><br />It's an odd battle, especially when taking subs into consideration. I've always felt that there seemed to be about a 200:1 ratio on submissive men to Dominant Women. When I think about it in regards to hard core sadists to submissive men capable of handling such a relationship I start to feel the ratio is much much smaller.<br /><br />In regards to your questions about my former Mistress, those are very good questions. I regret any relationship ending. When I enter into a relationship I try to give all of myself. If that relationship ends it tends to be rather devastating. I feel she was able to "get me" on a deeper level than most of the other Dommes I have been with. To say that I don't regret losing a very special connection with a very special woman would be a lie. <br /><br />That being said, I do not think I could handle hopping right in with how she is now. I think I could have easily been broken over time to reach that state and followed that path willingly. Is it odd to envy the process more than the outcome? I'm sure it would be terrifying but that is something I crave if my mind is in the right place when it's happening.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-20630479031218944742015-09-15T09:16:21.801-05:002015-09-15T09:16:21.801-05:00An interesting "fine tuning" of your def...An interesting "fine tuning" of your definition(s) of what a hard core sadist is all about. I wonder whether our non hard core sadist is truly not enjoying the suffering of her sub as well. If she isn't reluctant to punish her sub, then I'd say she's at least experiencing a modicum of "pleasure" at his suffering. It's definitely a fine line. If the critical difference is the flowing of juices whether in the presence of the suffering sub or not, I daresay that even your semi-sadist Femdom is capable of enjoying her sub's suffering from afar. Is it a sexual enjoyment? I'd say that varies from one individual to another, and it's impossible to make generalizations about this.<br /><br />As to your ex and her expanded views since your time together, do you find yourself wishing you could still be her property? Or are you glad you got out before she became a lot more strict?Lady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795130564028111447noreply@blogger.com