tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post5473289327067246172..comments2023-06-29T09:42:26.046-05:00Comments on Sentiments from an Enslaved Sissy: Grasping Sadismfur sissyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-57350002757876895512016-07-17T17:42:30.894-05:002016-07-17T17:42:30.894-05:00Thank you for sharing.
Trust is very paramount....Thank you for sharing. <br /><br />Trust is very paramount. It is especially important to those of us who somewhat crave to reach that state since that ultimately leaves us completely vulnerable.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-62612219458717617872016-07-17T16:35:17.798-05:002016-07-17T16:35:17.798-05:00He said afterward, he was really bothered by it, b...He said afterward, he was really bothered by it, but that luckily the woman had his "best interests" at heart, and he ultimately felt it was deserved. Nevertheless, he used it as a cautionary tale to warn other board members that the ability to give and withdraw consent is not sufficient to ensure your safety. You have to know the domme (or in his case, disciplinarian) well enough to be convinced of their good intentions and concern for your (ultimate) well being. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-69667940237367018642016-07-17T15:48:10.406-05:002016-07-17T15:48:10.406-05:00Thank you very much for sharing this.
Without h...Thank you very much for sharing this. <br /><br />Without having more info I would have to guess that he did reach subspace but I might also speculate that he may have hit a deeper connection... eg. he may have felt on some level that this was deserved. Verbal scolding accompanying discipline is often used to drive a lesson home in such a way.<br /><br />Quite interesting.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-80106001968000097592016-07-17T14:47:27.457-05:002016-07-17T14:47:27.457-05:00I recently read a post from a spankee (I wouldn...I recently read a post from a spankee (I wouldn't call him a submissive in the true BDSM sense, but rather, a corporal punishment/discipline recipient). He recounted something very similar to what you describe here on another blog:<br /><br />"Without going into all the details, (my sweetie) and I have a long distance relationship and we've discussed the effectiveness of her making use of a third party (a mutual friend) to help me with some accountability issues like procrastination, sleep habits, etc whenever she isn't with me. During a surprise visit from this woman a few months ago - she became increasingly frustrated as more and more of the stuff I had not done became evident - until finally she went off the deep end, and dragged me upstairs for what I knew would not be a "fun" kinda spanking. Well, in the course of her olympic caliber fussing, scolding and lecturing she kept working herself into a fever pitch, which in turn - found expression through a series of implements as I was bent across an ottoman. This is hard to articulate, but I sort of found myself slipping away - I suspect it may have been the mythical "subspace" that gets mentioned - but at the time I had no idea what was happening in my head, but I did know that my butt was on the edge of blistered , and then I saw her pick up a large, 1/2" thick wooden paddle tennis racket with holes....<br /><br />Everything in my brain said to say "no", or "start begging", or plead or yell "uncle" - but I didn't...I couldn't. She laid into me pretty close to full force at least a dozen times - and the only thing I heard come out of my mouth were grunts and groans. When she was done, I would not move (could not move)....it was the closest I've been to feeling absolute and complete mental and physical submission."<br /><br />It seems that there are some circumstances where you get into subspace or whatever you want to call it, and lack the capacity to consent. The guy who wrote the above post is very experienced.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-28644623633507392112016-07-17T11:19:22.449-05:002016-07-17T11:19:22.449-05:00Thank you, Lady Grey. fs is definitely at a point...Thank you, Lady Grey. fs is definitely at a point where he would never refuse her and would probably experience significant and crushing emotional pain if he were to even consider it. The biggest part of fs's ability to endure Arc 6 is that he knows there is an end if he stays the course. I did have Vanessa and Patsy a bit in mind when I have written most of my "loan out" chapters. In many ways I wanted to portray fs as someone who is devoted so deeply... that he will endure anything to please her... no matter how unreasonable or difficult the experience. Thankfully this chapter is almost over.<br /><br />I agree with you that it is disconcerting... to be honest, I scare the shit out of myself and I have heard from a sub or two that feels the same way. I reach a mind-state when I have been significantly broken and cannot refuse... it doesn't even appear as an option. I may regret the outcome but the thought doesn't even cross my mind. It is terrifying. <br /><br />I do not think that all submissives reach this state... but I do know that some do.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-81837727568048748572016-07-17T11:04:06.701-05:002016-07-17T11:04:06.701-05:00Thank you for your kind words, Fur. As to our &qu...Thank you for your kind words, Fur. As to our "consent" disagreement, I'll have to accept your view since you are, after all, the author. Perhaps I'm underestimating fiction fur's level of commitment to Cassandra, though I personally would never ask such levels of commitment of a sub under my command, if for no other reason than to protect him from himself. I'm afraid I'd have to slap Cassandra if I ever met her:) Much like I wanted to slap my friend Vanessa when she abused Karl so fiercely.<br /><br />I must say I find it interesting - and a bit disconcerting - to hear that males are much more accepting of the abuse that you have going on than females. Maybe that's where reality differs from fantasy. I daresay many of those males might feel differently if actually put to the test:)<br /><br /><br />Lady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795130564028111447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-38451195118567110842016-07-17T10:15:22.013-05:002016-07-17T10:15:22.013-05:00Thank you, Lady Grey. I think you are a wonderful...Thank you, Lady Grey. I think you are a wonderful and fascinating individual. In the entirety of your blog posts I have always gotten a sense that you know the realistic limits of what you deem acceptable and what Karl can handle. Your exploration of the more extreme edges has always been from a point of trust and consent. I applaud you for that.<br /><br />My experiences with sadists has often been that a good number of them have suppressed the more cruel instincts for so long that when they finally do manifest it is often after years (sometimes decades) of secret and hidden fantasy. They often have not found the lines within themselves where realistic and sustainable actions cross over into damaging actions. As they explore their dark side further and further they inevitably push their subs extremely hard and the subs get shattered over and over until they reach a point where the subs can basically accept anything (making the lines even more blurry). <br /><br />As for Arc 6... I think this is an example of where that disconnect between a "controlled sadist" vs. a "limitless sadist" and how submissives may happen. While writing from subspace it feels completely reasonable for fs to accept Cassandra's decisions and endure anything rather than feeling like he let her down. I also am writing Cassandra from a point of exploring her lines and uncertain about what she herself truly craves and needs. <br /><br />I think following Arc 5 fs is grasping the changes that are happening within Cassandra and he values her self-discovery over his own well-being. <br /><br />If any of it is a latent desire of mine... I believe it is mostly from an "I could handle that" standpoint vs. a "I would want that" standpoint. <br /><br />Where things differ is that I see his participation as consensual. To me the only true non-consensual part of the entire story was Part 7 with fs's kidnapping. The emotional strain from "losing his Mistress" in Arc 1, Arc 2, and Arc 4 dwarf the pain he is in now. If Cassandra believes him capable of handling this and trusts him to play his part, he would consent to it in a heartbeat in order to make her proud. <br /><br />The best way I could describe the mindset of fs for this is that it is probably similar to what Karl goes through when you have loaned him out on his slave weekends. His fear of letting you down or reflecting poorly on you trumps anything he might have to face. I guess a way of looking at it might be what would happen if Karl spent 27 days a month as a slave and 3 days as a man... instead of vice versa. <br /><br />I know when I am writing I can't quite pick up where the line between squeamish starts... I just know from your feedback and Miss Lily's when I have "gone too far." At the same time my male reader feedback is often "this is great, keep it going." Odd stuff but quite interesting to me. <br /><br />I will say this... after the 2nd prison chapter I knew what I was missing and have been working to write my way out :) Keeping part of the man intact is important to me as it is with many others. <br /><br />I hope these thoughts make some semblance of sense.<br /><br />Take care and thank you very much for the input.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-21922897544998854422016-07-17T09:30:47.238-05:002016-07-17T09:30:47.238-05:00Yes, predictable is boring. That's why so muc...Yes, predictable is boring. That's why so much of the responsibility for a successful D/s relationship falls on the D. It's up to the Dom to keep things fresh and alive, and sadism makes that a lot easier. As one myself, I can say that the inner workings of a sadist are complicated and hard to explain, but the "turn on " factor can't be ignored. Since acting like a sadist comes naturally to said sadist, it's far easier to come up with new and exciting ways to torture your victim, always realizing that internal limits are in play, and that certain levels of sadism are taboo, hopefully by choice. There are areas and levels of sadism that hold no appeal to me, so my internal limits act as a natural protective measure for both myself and my victim. One would hope that this is true for all sadists in the D/s world, but I am well aware that some take it much too far. The ladies in your latest episodes of the fiction fur story being a prime example.<br /><br />And yet....would you be writing the scenes you're writing in re the grad students if it didn't hold some level of appeal for you? Maybe just as fantasy, but there must be some latent desire there, no? Ah well, it would be so frustrating for a sadist not to have a consenting victim, wouldn't it? That's where the latest installments of fiction fur cross the line. He's not at all consenting to his present circumstances, and I suspect that's why some of your readers may be finding it difficult to read and comment on. One could easily become a bit squeamish at the current state of affairs. What do you think?Lady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795130564028111447noreply@blogger.com