tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post7354630454263353811..comments2023-06-29T09:42:26.046-05:00Comments on Sentiments from an Enslaved Sissy: Have I always been submissive?fur sissyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-48970957931727417812011-03-13T07:02:32.288-05:002011-03-13T07:02:32.288-05:00I'm not quite sure but it definitely works as ...I'm not quite sure but it definitely works as a precursor leading up to chastity in stories on both an individual or large scale.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-40174699396670265562011-03-13T06:36:26.880-05:002011-03-13T06:36:26.880-05:00Fascinating! I wonder whether the whole harassment...Fascinating! I wonder whether the whole harassment/date rape scare is one of the reasons for the eroticisation of chastity belts?<br /><br />Similar thoughts here: http://chasteerotica.blogspot.com/search/label/mixed%20messagesGiles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-40286642757265512632011-03-12T22:18:06.036-06:002011-03-12T22:18:06.036-06:00That's a very good question, Giles.
I know ba...That's a very good question, Giles.<br /><br />I know back then I used to over-analyze and second guess my feelings/instincts because they had failed me pretty badly.<br /><br />I can't really trace it to any one thing but I can definitely link it to a series of events that assisted in my failures.<br /><br />-When I was in Jr High my school district lost a multi-million dollar sexual harassment lawsuit. Part of the settlement required "increased sexual harassment awareness" policies and stricter rules governing those. Basically, flirting, public displays of affection, sexual jokes, etc. became punishable by suspension (with 3rd offense being expulsion). It didn't even have to be the parties directly involved to qualify. e.g. if a guy was flirting with a girl and touched her butt the girl could report it or someone who saw it happen could "be offended" by witnessing it and report it. If a guy told a girl she was pretty, if she didn't like him she could report him for sexual harassment and he would end up suspended. <br /><br />There were about 4 year's worth of students that ended up going through their early teen years like deer in headlights... it just so happens that my class was one of those classes. Basically I never learned to flirt nor give compliments and it wasn't until ~10th grade or so that those previous policies were relaxed a bit.<br /><br />-In addition to the lawsuit fallout I was trapped a bit by my principles and philosophies. I never wanted to give empty compliments nor have anything I said be interpreted as pillow-talk. This might seem a bit ass-backwards but somehow it made sense in my head at that time. I might say things like "I think you are a terrific person" or "I'm happy whenever I'm around you," but I never felt comfortable saying something like "I think you're sexy" because I didn't want someone to think I was just out for pussy. In other words, while I was very good at building up someone's self-esteem as a friend, I wasn't able to make women feel physically attractive and that's often a large part of their psyche.<br /><br />-I had very low self-esteem. If someone was attracted to me I wouldn't notice it since I didn't believe anyone would be attracted to me. If I was attracted to someone I would want them to see the "real me" and get to know them well. In most cases I couldn't read their feelings for me and I seemed to try to advance things when they weren't attracted to me and I didn't advance things in a few cases where they really were attracted to me. They took my lack of action as a sign that I didn't have feelings for them.<br /><br />-I had too many female friends. With my role as the shoulder to cry on I found out what not to be as a guy. The problem was that I focused too much on becoming someone that would be an ideal spouse/long-term partner and not enough on someone that could sweep a woman off her feet.<br /><br />-I didn't focus enough on my physical appearance. I've always been on the chubbier side of things although I'm also of an extremely muscular build. My body type is one that can build muscle mass very easily but I have a VERY difficult time losing fat. I also suffered a couple of crippling sports injuries that prevented me from doing a lot of types of aerobic exercises. There were certain things I couldn't change, like being short, but I definitely could have dressed differently, had a different haircut, etc. and done a lot better in this aspect of things.<br /><br />-I was a minority in a 2000-student high school that was less than 1% minority students. I can't say for certain how much of a difference this made but I know it did make a difference.<br /><br />All in all, I usually couldn't tell when someone was interested in me, I sometimes couldn't tell when someone wasn't interested in me, and there's a lot of things about myself that I could have done better.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-65704979009310032892011-03-12T16:47:51.582-06:002011-03-12T16:47:51.582-06:00But if you were so desperate, why was your romanti...But if you were so desperate, why was your romantic decision making so poor?Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-41952007557251089482011-03-11T23:10:31.437-06:002011-03-11T23:10:31.437-06:00Thank you, Miss Lilly. I have modified the post. ...Thank you, Miss Lilly. I have modified the post. <br /><br />Giles, I know in my case back then I so desperately wanted a relationship. The problem was (and always seems to be) is that when you're desperate no one wants a relationship with you but when you have a relationship everyone wants a relationship with you (pheromones maybe?). <br /><br />It was odd back then. Women 10-40 years older than me were often attracted to me but I had very little luck with women my own age.fur sissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773975470940525031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-20745364993317530082011-03-11T13:35:30.108-06:002011-03-11T13:35:30.108-06:00Thanks for asking, but you can say it was me. Inte...Thanks for asking, but you can say it was me. Interesting chat.Miss Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00507394653557060026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3097573368575371682.post-80716829229606195962011-03-11T10:29:06.449-06:002011-03-11T10:29:06.449-06:00That's a lovely piece! It chimes a little with...That's a lovely piece! It chimes a little with me too.<br /><br />I suspect that when looking at kinky roles, it helps to look at what they free you from. The romantic choices you made could be read as avoiding having a relationship. Feeling used and replacable gives you the relationship, without the responsibility for it...Giles Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06078027627281038866noreply@blogger.com