Monday, September 13, 2010

Illusion of Choice part 2 - Conditional Choices

Lady Grey's comments on my first post about the illusion of choice brought up a very interesting idea:  conditional choices. 

If the standard illusion of choice breeds a lose-lose situation, a conditional choice situation gives the submissive slightly different outcomes to consider, and could be considered more of a win-lose-lose situation.  I consider conditional choice to still carry the illusion of power since actual choice in most cases wouldn't include said conditions.

A few examples:

-A sub can have an orgasm if they are willing to take 50 whacks with the paddle or they can continue to be denied orgasm without a consequence (or with a lesser consequence, such as 10 whacks with the paddle).

-A sub can be feminized and humiliated in public or avoid the humiliation in exchange for 90 days of chastity.

-A sub can sleep in bed with his Mistress while in chains and gagged or he can sleep unbound in a different room.

Conditional choices carry a slightly different type of emotional reaction for the sub.  While they have the potential to receive pleasure (or avoid something very unpleasant) it is at the expense of something that is unpleasant to a lesser degree or unpleasant in a different way.  This carries an even greater "this is what you wanted" factor for the Domme to hold over him but it can also make the pleasure sweeter since it feels earned/deserved after meeting the conditions.

Since feelings of deserving and entitlement can cause a sub's male ego to grow I tend to believe that conditional choices are probably best employed in one of these situations:
1.  The conditional choice is a means to avoiding great unpleasantness rather than a true reward. 
2.  The conditions needed to be met for the reward are significantly worse than the pleasure gained by the reward.

In these two types of scenarios I see the greatest potential for a deep mind fuck.

For the time being...

Sorry I haven't been "up to speed," things are still stabilizing and I haven't had the free time to dedicate towards blogging or commenting on other blogs that I had hoped.

I may be able to whip up a quick something this evening, but if I can't...

I have a feeling that shopping with Mistress will be quite fun this year.  On a quick side note (that may just be my insecurity talking), but please let me know if you enjoy (or dislike) the posts with pictures of clothing that I think my Mistress would enjoy wearing (and look damn sexy while doing so) as I seem to get little if any response on these types of posts and I can always stop.