Thursday, August 26, 2010

Last post for a bit

I have a few half-typed posts saved in the que but I didn't have time to finish them.

I will be internet-less for a few days coming up so I figured I'd give a quick link that I thought was an interesting read.

On Giles English's blog he posted a wonderful write-up of breaking down the roles in a BDSM scenario.  While I'm guessing it's heavily focused from a writer's standpoint this can be especially useful for understanding why you like what you like, and more importantly, why she likes what she likes (and why it may not be what you like).  I'd highly recommend giving it a read.

If you aren't familiar with his work, his novel, The Chastity Belt, is available for download here.
This was the work that first gave chastity some kind of fetish appeal to me when I read it years ago.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010


It's been a long time since I was searching for a Mistress but it always gives me goose bumps when I read a profile of a Domme that announces "No masochists or pain sluts.  I don't want you to have any enjoyment when I hurt you."

When I was looking I only once wrote to a woman like that and it was asking the question that I know could make me unhappy, and that was if it would be working towards a loving long term relationship.  I didn't get a response and I still wonder why that kind of mindset "gets me" in just the right way even though I know that it probably wouldn't be the right choice.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Putting the "Forced" in Forced Feminization

I am in the midst of some busy things in my personal life so my access to the internet will be sporadic at best over the next 7-10 days.  Hopefully everything should smooth out soon.

I was reading the blog at:
and something in the comments got me thinking about this topic again.

How does a D/s relationship make feminization feel forced when it's obviously a source of pleasure for the sub.  I have no desire to crossdress but forced feminization has become a big part of my submissive life.  There always seems to be a fine line between a sub sharing his feelings about what aspects turn him on and attempts at topping from the bottom.

What I was thinking about are ways to drive home the forced aspect of feminization and what sort of things are capable of doing that.  Each type of activity seems to stem from a particular root aspect that is usually more D/s than sissy fantasy.

My list so far:
1.  Remove choice. 
-Lock away (or throw away) his male garments in a "wear this or go naked" sense. 
-Choose what he has to wear.
-Threaten compliance with punishment.
-Do it whenever, even (or especially) when he isn't in the mood.

2.  Establish feelings of inescapability.
-Lock the feminine items on.

3.  Create a negative association.
-Establish a link between dressing and chastity and/or orgasm denial.
-Place him in uncomfortable situations.
-Work him hard with unrealistic expectations when he is dressed.
-Make sure he is dressed during any and all punishments.

4.  Establish permanence.  (This is a bit extreme but also removes the fantasy connotations)
-Breast implants or cosmetic surgery.
-Feminine tattoos and/or tattooed make-up/eyebrows.
-Horomone therapy.

#4 most likely goes beyond the realm of what most couples will ever wish to experience but I figured I would list them anyways since they fit in with the overall theme.

Any thoughts or additions?