I know I just made a post about the dangers of unrealistic fantasizing, but if you've read my blog for a long time you have probably seen that I do enjoy analyzing and trying to get to the root of particular fantasies and how/why they get to us.
I probably seem like a broken record with this... but this is further exploring the Lesbian Fantasy.... which I realize I have done several times already here:
I know there are a number of women out there who were the last woman their ex-boyfriend dated before coming out of the closet. I'm sure they are cases (although much less documented) of men being the last man their ex-girlfriend dated before becoming a Lesbian.
I'm not one to consider being a cuckold... with another man. Maybe it's my inherent distrust of men, but the thought of Mistress having sex with another man repulses me and it's something that in all likelihood would cause me to leave the relationship. I don't mind her playing with other subs, especially those that have a fetish for doing things that I'm not a fan of (e.g. cleaning, being beaten until the skin breaks and bleeds, or having their rectum ravaged by a giant strap on).
I have thought about what kind of psychological impact there would be if Mistress were to go full-on Lesbian (and not just bi) and cite a reason along the lines of me being inadequate as a lover or her being so fed up with men because of me that she went to play for the other team. Of course, in this romanticized fantasy version I would be kept on as a submissive but replaced as a lover.
I think I kind of view this as being beyond emasculation and is probably the death of the male ego.
I think the appeal on some level is that you are kept at arm's length from what you want but can never have again. The suffering and distress of that position is one that appeals greatly to my subspace. You can keep tacking on extras that push it deeper and deeper: chastity with no hope of release, no underlying love/care to serve as protection from real damage, forced fem as a caricature of femininity, having your income confiscated so that you have no independence or freedom, etc. The other big (fantasy) kicker is, of course, that her Lesbian lover will harbor disdain towards me and be as cruel, if not more cruel than Mistress.
Could I be happy in this situation? I guess it depends upon the other factors. Happy probably isn't the right word since I would surely be unhappy, but at the same time if the situation was as perfect as a fantasy it would probably be a tough situation to ever leave even if I was unhappy.
I am well-aware that this situation is just a fantasy. If a sub was that inferior as a lover and person, she would almost certainly give him the boot as soon as she found a new lover (nor would her lover likely be okay with her keeping a male ex around). I do find it particularly arousing though.
We did attempt to role-play this scenario in the past but had trouble finding a compatible femsub.