In the past I have written about the post-orgasm subspace crash and the difficulty for a sub to get "back on track" in its aftermath. I have also touched upon some of the characteristics of prolonged orgasm denial but I don't think I've gone very in depth about it.
So what exactly happens with denial and the resulting sexual frustration?
In small doses, a male kept on edge will increase in focus and attentiveness. This is one situation where the male cock actually helps obedience more than it hurts it. The cock has its innate desire to cum and correctly leads the sub to behave in accordance with what should make that happen.
What about when small doses become large doses, when that intense desire begins to grow beyond the typical male arousal?
It's hard to really describe this as it's a gradual process. There are several factors that all build up together. The early stage (stage 1) can be characterized by:
-Arousal surfaces more easily and more frequently. This will increase the sub's awareness of his own sexual frustration and what it will take to release.
-Focus increases, he will become more in tune with the desires of his Domme. He is sure that good behavior will lead to release.
-His body's awareness will heighten, smell and touch will become more sensitive. The slightest hint of sexuality will cause his body to tingle. The nipples become perky and sensitive.
As prolonged denial continues, more changes happen (stage 2):
-He will gradually become desperate. It will take less to make him agitated and anxious.
-His emotions will be magnified, especially in regards to the excitement brought about by anticipation and the suffering caused by disappointment.
If the pattern continues and emotional pressure is applied, the sub can be pressed to a deeper state (stage 3), but this may require the use of chastity:
-He will become high strung. The smallest gesture can drive him wild with desire or to crash into the depths of despair.
-If he stops believing he will be allowed release he will either cheat or fall into a state resembling depression, a broken man, defeated, and he will attempt to abandon his own will and surrender to her.
The advancement between stages is a process. It requires certain parts of his emotions and submission to reach their "limit" before his psyche discovers a new level of subspace. The speed at which this happens can be accelerated or decelerated by the Domme, but his emotional and submissive characteristics and libido will affect the overall pace of the transition.
With knowledge of the stages in place, there are ways to exert greater control and exploit his weaknesses. This is especially effective if trying to change his behavioral patterns.
-Mind fucks will wield a significant amount of power. His emotions will be thrown into complete disarray and he will react with a mix of panic and desperation. This is a prime state if you wish to induce tears without having to lift a finger.
-His motivation and drive will be off the charts, especially if it's implied that this is the path to release. Failure is not an option. e.g. if he's sent on a task to pick up some obscure specialty item without guidance upon where to find it, he may spend countless hours and drive all over the place in order to find it when during normal times he may simply give up and take a punishment.
-He can be shoved into ever-increasingly deep level of subspace. If given a glimmer of hope and having that hope crushed will advance his submission. e.g. telling him "I was thinking and... I should let you cum... just not today should light a spark and then extinguish it, sending him into even deeper darkness.
It should be noted that monitoring his emotional state is very important the longer this process continues. While the submissive emotional response will be magnified, so will his emotional response to external stress factors (e.g. bad day at work, road rage, etc.) and he may become angry more easily towards little things. From my experiences, the longer this state persists, the more important it is for the Domme to be overtly loving and caring. While she might constantly be fucking with him and keeping him an emotional wreck, spending time each day to cuddle, being gentle and intimate, while reminding him of her love for him does wonders to keep him calm and away from depression.
Saying, "I think I like you better this way," is pretty much the ultimate for causing inner emotional conflict for him. If he begins to equate your happiness with his own denial it can shape some interesting outcomes.
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