The comments left on my cruelty fantasy analysis got me thinking about a few things in general... one of which was the contrast of doing what you love and doing what you hate when it comes to Femdom relationships.
Love and Hate for a male sub
Doing what you love is the reason that you entered into this lifestyle in the first place. When you love it, you do it well, with complete fervor and dedication. It brings enjoyment and you relish in the experience, craving future experiences that bring about similar feelings.
Doing what you hate is a bit more complicated with many subs. Any sub that gets turned on by humiliation probably has a bit of duality here. They have what they hate/hate and they have what the love/hate.
With a love/hate situation, the action is unpleasant but it brings about desired feelings and outcomes. You may hate queening but love that it gets your Mistress off hard. You may hate being humiliated in public but love the arousal of the experience.
With a hate/hate situation things are truly unpleasant. Persevering through hate/hate scenarios does little to bring the sub pleasure but it serves the ulterior purpose of increasing submission and devotion.
What this means to Dommes
Anything a sub loves can be treated as a privilege, even if it's a mutual pleasure.
Anything that a sub has a love/hate relationship with can be polarized and used against him. By polarize, I mean to find a way to force it to be treated as a situation he loves or one that he truly hates. If tilted towards love it can be treated as a privilege by having him admit that he loves it even if he doesn't want to and increase his level of submission. A hate situation can be brought about by adding some additional factors to the scenario to make sure it's unpleasant for him. In these cases it should increase submission and can be used for taunting by citing previous experiences where it got him off.
Hate/hate situations can probably be reserved for punishments or whenever you feel his attitude could use some adjustment.
Love and Hate for a Domme
Well, there isn't much that has to be said about things a Domme loves to do, except hopefully she has those activities available anytime she wants them.
It is inevitable that a Domme will have to do some things she hates every so often. These may often include certain types of punishments that have an adverse effect on her life, such as withholding contact, withholding affection, severe corporal punishment, etc. It is odd, but in these cases a Domme should perform the hated action with fervor and commitment. If this is a punishment she should go at the punishment full throttle since he is more likely to remember how bad it was and anticipate it will be worse if it happens again in the future. Basically, it can serve as a deterrent for his future behavior.
If this isn't a punishment but if the hated activity is a form of reward for the sub (something he loves), there's usually a way to put a spin on it to twist it into a love/hate activity for the sub (or even a hate/hate activity). A ruined or denied orgasm, intense humiliation, long-term denial or severe punishment in its aftermath, etc. come to mind. This will make him less likely to request an activity the Domme hates in the future.