Recently there's been a large influx of both Dommes that have entered the blogging world and other Femdom (or FLR) relationships that have integrated forced feminization into their D/s relationships and reading these blogs have given me some things to think about.
Much of what gets written about are the back stories behind the forced femme and experiences that go on between both Domme and sub. I know this is what many readers want to read but in many cases it doesn't shed a lot of light into just why she likes it and what she gains by doing so. For those subs out there who don't serve a Domme, that is where the answers lie in terms of courting or "convincing" an otherwise unwilling participant to give things a try.
I would probably cite the number one reason that forced fem gets introduced into a relationship is probably love. A man and woman who have been together for a long time and either he introduces D/s into their relationship or she discovers his obsession with it and things go on from there. In most cases these start with baby steps and lots of stumbling along the way. Forced fem seems to either be introduced out of anger (e.g. catching him cross-dressing and beginning a Femdom relationship rooted on that aspect) or something that is reached slowly after fully developing a D/s relationship. In the latter, there was usually some hint (or discovery) that brought up the theme long before and at some point it was introduced into the relationship. In both cases the relationship continues to work usually out of some form of love for the man that has become their sub (or longstanding grudge that never would have surfaced in the absence of love).
Assuming love was the root cause, there has to be something beyond that for the Domme to want to take the effort to formulate rules and keep things going. At this point things are similar to a pre-negotiated relationship that includes forced fem. That is, we finally get down to the reason of what it does for her to make her want to do it.
Feminizing a male and enacting rules and punishments in relation to it means a lot of additional work for a Domme. Not only are there the everyday rules, rituals, and punishments that must be upheld and the need for constantly creative machinations to prevent breakdown of the relationship, but now there's another party that has to be dressed and primped and an entirely new set of behaviors and mannerisms to oversee. It's a high level of responsibility.
I believe there has to be something beyond that in order for the Domme to be willing to do this. While each Domme differs, there are probably some common responses among them as to why they keep this going.
Here are a few reasons I can extrapolate from my years in the lifestyle:
-Increased obedience and submission. Forced fem drops him into a deeper level of subspace improving his behavior and making him even more loving, attentive, and submissive.
-Attitude adjustment. Forced fem strips him of his masculinity and dignity. When he is dressed he is a different person. This might seem similar to the first answer but it is performed to crush defiance rather than increase obedience.
-Overt Cruelty: "He hates it so I love it." In these cases forced fem is usually implemented as a punishment. If it turns her on to see him whimper and cry, this reason is fairly common.
-For his pleasure. This is sort of an extension of love. If he needs this in the long run, she makes it happen to ensure they are both happy.
-It keeps him off balance. This serves no true purpose for her except to rattle his cage every so often and put him through the ringer.
-"I no longer see him as a suitable lover." In cases where women seek strong masculine men, she likely lost her sexual attraction to him when he was outed as a submissive and this is used to remove any trace of sexual appeal.
-It makes him more attractive. She might find him more attractive either dressed in a feminine way or she might find his personality more attractive when he is dressed.
-It is steering him towards his true sexuality. In cases where he is closet gay/bi, she may wish to get him to fully open up and admit/experience his hidden desires.
-A servant should have a uniform, so why not this? For Dommes that prefer a stricter environment or a more formal Mistress/servant relationship.
I'm sure there are many more reasons but these are just a few I could come up with over the past half hour or so. Please chime in if you agree/disagree with any of these reasons or you wish to add your own reason.
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