I've
written a lot about subspace and have often been asked to describe it.
I tend to view it as a state of mind rather than as the result of
physical play as it is often portrayed (usually by writings that assume
every submissive is a masochist).
In
my past analysis of subspace I often viewed it as a priority shift from
an inward stance (what I want) to an outward stance (what can I do for
her?) in a sub's mental state that is often tied to psychological and
sexual triggers. While this may describe what I end up feeling as I
progress into deeper stages of subspace, it tends to skip a few of the
earlier stages.
Tonight
I was thinking about how to describe it in a way that covers all
stages. What seemed to make sense to me is that in any stage, subspace
is a (progressive) state of wanting more but being willing to accept
less.
In
its shallowest states, a sub may crave sexual contact and fetish
presence but rather than simply jerking off themselves, they relinquish
control of those factors over to the Domme. Basically, they get horny
and have an increased desire for kink and sexual attention but accept a
less immediate form of gratification.
This
seems to hold true for most stages of subspace as well as most fetish
activities. E.g. A sub in chastity and deep subspace may dearly want to
cum but instead accepts teasing and the idea of "maybe next time."
This in turn deepens their subspace and makes them crave the orgasm
even more, which is what makes the disappointment of further denial so
exhilarating. A sub in an extremely deep state (bordering on slave
level state) may deeply crave attention, love, praise, etc. but may
simply accept not being punished as a reward for good service.
As
states deepen, the number and strength of desires may grow while the
sub is willing to accept progressively less of their immediate desires.
Note: By immediate desires I am referring to desires in the moment and
not desires we rationalize while outside of subspace.
I may think about this definition a bit more. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
I've noticed a "slave space" where you lose all perspective and the roles become real - disobediance becomes mentally impossible in the same way that going to the office naked is impossible.
ReplyDeleteSub space seems to over lap this... or is this part of sub space?
Thank you, Giles. I believe slave space to be an extreme state of subspace and it can be explained quite well in this way. The key to this idea is that it is progressive, with each iteration creating a new set of desires and suppressing the need for previous desires to be met (aka accepting even less). In this way, slave space is is just further down the line where the sub's desires and accepted responses become extremely basic and far removed from direct sexual desire.
ReplyDeleteI think most situations where subs must attain this level with great frequency requires a good bit of training and conditioning so that they can respond quickly to ritual or other triggers without having to "chase" them there through gradually escalating intensity.
Does that make sense?
Not sure.
ReplyDeleteNow I think of it, my experience of what I think of as slave space is that it clicks in *before* the sub space.
On goes the chastity belt and I am 100% obedient, just as if this was Ancient Rome.... the natural order of things. After that there can be episodes where I am sensually lost, which I take to be sub space.
I've never experienced sub space without slave space first. Is one a prerequisite for the other, or do they simply co-exist?
Giles,
Deletein my opinion, a chastity belt acts as a deep trigger for you. It may even be so strong for you that you can't find yourself feeling submissive without it. I can hit that state, but it usually takes a little bit of time and a lot of my submissive triggers to be present.
I would have to ask though, when fantasizing, does the idea of a chastity belt affect you?