Creating your own service-oriented submissive mental space

NOTE:  So I got sick this weekend and I’ve had a fever all day.  Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag… or at least that’s my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made. 
My apologies if either of them came off that way, my brain is feeling pretty cloudy and lacking in the eloquence department.  I hope you can accept the message and forgive my lack of tact in its presentation.


Service is often viewed as the pinnacle of submission.  Enjoying service is that ideal mental state where you cast aside your own desires and dedicate your energy towards your dominant.  A lot of people separate what service is based upon its motive.  If you do it purely out of love for the dominant, it is pure.  If you do it for praise, it is selfish and impure.  If you have a fetish for it, it is also impure.

I try not to make such judgments because I rarely think anything is that black and white.  Is there true altruism blah blah blah.  I don’t think people really do anything for one reason.  I think there are a multitude of factors in play and your resulting action is the balancing point of those factors within you.  Yourself, others, the present, the past, the future.  We are more complicated than binary yes/no answers.

Curiously enough, the topic of service-oriented submission most frequently comes up on the topic of subs that find themselves “starving” for dominance and overwhelmed by the ache of their submissive needs.  The advice is often presented in a manner that implies that they have an inferior view of submission.  They need to evolve their mental state and become a submissive Buddha, who turns to service to achieve enlightenment.  I understand this advice on face value, but in my opinion, I think it is a half-truth.

What many people who embrace the service side of submission have actually done, is create a service-oriented submissive mental space (I will call this service subspace for ease).  They have been able to tap into their submission and channel subspace through service.  This cures the ache.  This makes you feel fulfilled on your own.  You feel submissive in the absence of dominance.
Is this pure?  Who cares, if it works.  The goal was to cure the ache, right?  What I plan to share here is a way for you to create your own service subspace.  This may work for people who are in relationships or those who are single who want a way to be more motivated by service.  It follows the same procedure that your original spaces likely formed: fantasy.

You will need to craft a series of fantasies about service.  It’s probably easiest if I make an example and just elaborate on it as I go. My topic of choice: scrubbing floors.  We all know how sexy scrubbing floors is on its own, it ranks up there with sex, bondage, and spanking for most of you, right?

The first step is to create the environment and your place within it.  Think about what makes you feel most submissive.

• Are you naked?  Wearing a uniform?  Wearing clothes that please your dominant?  Choose the one that makes you feel most submissive.
• How about add-ons?  Collar?  Cuffs?  Anal plug?  Nipple clamps?  Humbler?  Dungeon shackles?  Gag?
• Is it meant to be practical, a display of your status, or feel like punishment?  Does your answer imply anything else?  Would they tether your wrists to your collar?  Lock your ankles together or separate them with a spreader bar?  Would you be tethered to a wall-ring, creating some “hard to reach” areas?
• This is your fantasy, feel free to go wild and come up with anything else you think would help.

So there you are, an enslaved sub, trussed up in just the way that makes you most submissive, toiling away scrubbing that floor, and suffering in just the right way that turns you on.
The next step is to picture the dominant(s) involved and their behavior.

• Is it your dominant?  A stranger?  Someone else?  Is it more than one?  Does their official role give them power over you?  e.g. prison guard, slave-master, overseer/supervisor, etc.
• Are you left to scrub by yourself in silence?  Is there someone towering over you critiquing your every move with crop in hand?  Is there someone who checks in on you ever so often to make sure you stay on task?
• Are they harsh?  Are they kind?  Do they bully you?  Are they fair?  Are they cold?  Are they warm?  Are they wicked?  Force you to perform sexual acts?
• When you are done and they inspect your work, how do they act?  Proud of a job well done?  Overly critical and demanding perfection?  Do they force you to assume a posture while they inspect it?  If there are any mistakes do you have to redo it all?  Fix the spot you missed?

The final step is picturing what happens afterwards.

• Will you be punished?  Will you be rewarded?  Will there be a reminder of “your place”?  Will it reflect the quality of your work?
• Will there be sex?  What kind?  Will it be hot?  Will it be rough?  Are you meant to like it?
• Will there be play?  What kind?  Will it be hot?  Will it be rough?  Are you meant to like it?

Ideally, by now you should have some idea of a sexy scrubbing the floor D/s fantasy.  If you did it right, you should be able to envision a scenario that turns you on.  If you wish to solidify this fantasy within you, you might want to masturbate a few times to it.  Your goal is to associate the chore with this fantasy, so that when you think about scrubbing the floor, you picture what you just came up with.  When it takes hold within you, you can channel this fantasy when you are actually scrubbing the floor and it should become quite a bit more arousing and pleasant.  It also allows you to satiate your submissive needs when you think about and perform service.

To achieve maximum effect, you will want as many of these fantasies as you have tedious and mundane activities you are responsible for.  These may include but are not limited to:  cleaning the bathroom, vacuuming, doing laundry, mowing the lawn, and so on.  Rather than try to force yourself into a mindset that craves these activities, it is much easier to create attractive fantasies that put you into a service subspace when you think about these activities.

If that means you fantasize that you are naked except for collar and cuffs, on your hands and knees with an anal plug inside you, scrubbing way on the floor while your dominant watches you in a comfy chair from across the room before making you kneel while they inspect your work, grab you by the hair and point your face at any inadequacies, before punishing your bare bottom and taking you for their pleasure, so be it.  I can think of worse things to think about.