Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Femdom Dream Scenario - The Inescapable Contract

In addition to bondage, a variety of scenarios have shown up with frequency in my dreams.  Many of them answer the "so how did he get into that situation?" question.

One common scenario is the inescapable contract.  This usually manifests itself in one of a few ways but I will describe one that has been particularly common.

A man with submissive fantasies is reading the newspaper or browsing the internet when he stumbles across a vague job listing that advertises live-in employment opportunities for submissive men or sissies.  e.g. "GET PAID FOR LIVING OUT YOUR FEMDOM FANTASY."  The man calls the number where he informed of a very brief job description and requirements and schedules an interview. 

He arrives at the office to find the waiting room jammed full of other applicants.  At the interview he is greeted by an attractive woman who uses seductive Femdom powers to get him aroused.  She grills him quite heavily with personal questions about himself and his fantasies and he manages to be "submissive enough" to pass the screening process.  She gives him a very brief chance to ask some basic questions before offering him the job.  When he hesitates she tells him he must decide immediately and sign the labor contract or she will force him to leave and he will never again be considered for the job. 

He throws caution to the wind and agrees to sign, figuring it's the opportunity of a lifetime:  getting paid to be dominated rather than having to pay to be dominated by a pro Dominatrix.  She sets down an incredibly thick contract and begins quickly paging through to where he must sign without giving him a chance to read it.  He reluctantly signs at each page where she stops.  There are a few more documents that have cover sheets with boxes cut out for him to sign the page underneath but the rest of the page is not visible to him.  Still in his aroused state, he signs all of the required documents.

In every case he has signed a water-tight legally binding contract that covers every possible contingency and he is not granted any opportunity to opt-out of the contract.   

This is where things diverge in my dreams.  In some cases he is immediately escorted to a processing area by a few security guards.  In other cases he is given 24 hours to get his personal details into order and sent on his way.  Upon starting the job his ID, SS card, birth certificate, phone, wallet, etc. are all confiscated and locked away.

Usually, the terms of the contract are fairly consistent.

He has committed his labor services either in exchange for room & board or for salaried minimum wage not knowing that he will be worked 70+ hours a week.  Application fees, processing fees, uniform costs, training costs, additional restraints/devices, health care, room & board (in cases where it was not in exchange for this), electricity and water usage, etc. are all charged to him.  On day one of the job he finds himself hopelessly in debt and a significant deficit every week adding onto that total.  Even if he could escape (he would usually be restrained) he has already signed away his power of attorney and would be unable to buy himself out of the contract. 

Overall, I think there would be a good number of men who could be duped into such a situation.  I guess this is why I tend to pity the male for his genitalia-led thinking patterns.  

11 comments:

  1. My, my - you certainly are prolific lately! This particular dream sequence sounds more like a dream than any possible reality. The fantasy of being captured and enslaved is fairly common, but in real life, I suspect it's at best, a rarity.

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  2. Thank You again.

    Hehe... I go in spurts. There are strings of days that I can't make posts so I tend to jot down some notes here and there when I come up with something I would like to think about or write about. This just happened to be a longer stretch between writing and I had built up a stack of notes.

    I agree this is mostly fantasy but one way that I do believe my dreams have deviated from the standard kidnapping/captured scenario is that in these cases the men enter willingly. Albeit... without thinking it completely through and allowing their arousal to cloud judgment.

    I'm always curious as to just how far things could be brought into the actual world. That is, the most realistic way to translate a fantasy lifestyle into actual practice. I wrote about one way in my blog entry titled "Femdom House":
    http://furcissy.blogspot.com/2010/03/femdom-house.html

    I have written several D/s contracts both for myself and requested for others (one of my Ex's used to pimp me out for these). I know many things no matter how they were worded would not be legally enforceable but it's always been on my mind just how far you could go with this if it took the form of a labor contract, pre/post-nuptial agreement, etc.

    My dreams often manifest and exaggerate my own personal flaws. Being someone that gets easily aroused and struggles with clear judgment while aroused I've always wondered just what I would/could get myself into. These types of dreams are more common when I am single.

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  3. Have you ever seen the website of Ingrid Bellemare (www.male-slavery.com)? She claims to be involved in non consensual male slavery. That's absurd, of course, but she's about the closest thing I've seen to something like that. Read the words of her slave and his life with her and you'll see what I mean. It's quite radical, and based upon a "non breakable" contract that relies on potential blackmail for enforcement. The non consensual part comes after he's already consented to be her slave, which puts a lie to the concept right from the beginning, but it's quite interesting nevertheless, and far more slavelike than anything I've read that claims to be reality. I'd be interested in your thoughts on what she does.

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  4. Lady Grey,

    I had not seen that site before but I visited it and signed up for the email updates. It looks like it will take a couple of days before chapters 2 and 3 arrive so I won't be able to give complete feedback until then.

    The idea of blackmail-enforced servitude is definitely more realistic (or much easier to do) than what I have written about. At the same time I've always viewed it as a rather constant threat. I was taught early on in the lifestyle to execute a great deal of caution with first meetings an negotiated limits and my list of hard limits usually included a clause about photography/video/etc. (but I have been willing to drop this after a while).

    At the same time the thought of blackmail enforcement doesn't "speak to me" as much as more legal ways (considering extortion via blackmail is illegal).

    Her writing style is interesting though and the way she writes and her views are very similar to a Mistress I served several years ago. For some reason some of the paragraphs breed an odd mix of terror and arousal.

    I will try to post more as I get more email updates.

    Thank you for the link.

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  5. I forgot to mention this, but something that didn't quite sit well with me was her view on the ideal age group being 40 to 60 as steering anyone towards age discrimination tends to close doors rather than open them.

    Finding a well-disciplined male sub that isn't just looking for their perfect version of kinky sex can be a challenge regardless of their age.

    I can see how those in the 40-60 range who aren't involved in a D/s relationship are probably entering midlife crisis time and have finally decided that living vanilla won't make them happy. I guess at that age they also have more to lose by being outed via blackmail.

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  6. Did you read the first hand account of her slave? That's where most of the detail is. It's part of the website.

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  7. It took me a while but I managed to page back far enough to find the first posting of that. There weren't any backlinks on the current page which made it a bit difficult as it took me a while to figure out I had to use the "Older Post" link at the bottom and go back about 40 pages. I have since read 22 of the 28 entries.

    If anyone is interested it is located here:
    http://male-slavery.blogspot.com/2008/07/meeting-madam-ingrid-bellemare-part-one.html

    As for my thoughts on it, it's quite rather interesting. My first Mistress warned me about these types of scenarios saying that I would be of the nature that probably could/would surrender to that level if forced. At the same time, while I find it intriguing, that is not quite the scenario that I would envision for myself.

    I don't know very many women who would wish for this from a life-partner. Although many might enjoy having an unpaid live in servant to tend to domestic duties, I do know that most want a sub to share their life with on a more personal level.

    I do not function well without love and I do know that is where much of my submission stems from in regards to whom I submit and how much effort I put forth. I'm not particularly attractive, rich, nor a suave and debonair individual. The Dommes I have been with have generally cited their reason for choosing me was because of my heart, sincerity, honesty, friendship, thoughtfulness, devotion, intelligence, creativity, and sense of humor. It seems in a situation like theirs only a couple of those traits would be utilized.

    That being said, my relationships haven't lasted forever partly due to outside factors but also because I struggle at times with being a bit selfish, needy, and insecure (usually following periods of separation or those devoid of sub space).

    At the same time, I have to wonder what kind of conundrum I could get myself into if the lifestyle promised aspects that hit me hard on certain fetish levels. When my penis takes over I can fully admit my IQ drops about 100 points.

    I guess I'm not really sure. As much as I'd like to envision myself as being capable of filling that type of role I do know that it probably falls outside my boundaries of realistic expectations and I doubt it would make me happy or feel fulfilled. I guess I just don't want to feel like I could be replaced in a heartbeat by any trainable and willing sub with a pulse.

    If she chooses me for who I am, this makes me feel special and it increases my love, devotion, sincerity, and thoughtfulness.

    I hope that makes sense.

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  8. A quick follow-up. I think that anyone who enters the lifestyle faces the same threat of blackmail as used in this one so I'm not sure that is more of a deterrent from leaving as it is in any other D/s relationship. In this case it does bring it to the forefront whereas I know in the BDSM community there's usually an unspoken agreement that things stay private after parting since both parties have the capacity to lose face publicly.

    A rather interesting post I found on that site that pertains to this a bit:
    http://male-slavery.blogspot.com/2009/03/ensuring-compliance.html

    To quote the post:
    "Miss Ingrid, Madame. Perhaps Madame doesn't go far enough to insure a slaves lifetime of service. May I suggest some additional methods. 1; Have the slave sign the following legal powers of attorney, financial and health. This will give Madame the absolute final say over the slave pertaining to his life. 2; Have the slave sign a confession that it has stolen a valuable piece of property from Madame and it agrees to work off the value as a domestic. This not only binds the slave in a never ending quest to work off the debt but failure to do so may find the slave in prison."

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  9. Lady Grey,

    I wasn't sure if you'd seen it but I got an email update from the male-slavery site that stated that Madame Ingrid recently passed away.

    I know the stipulation that her plan of action had stated that in the case of the owner's death there would be money set aside for the slave, it has to make you wonder how difficult it will be for her slave to integrate back into daily life after this.

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  10. I did come up with a financially indestructible chastity device. Essentially, the device is valued at - say - $20,000 - but leased to the user for a reasonable fee and subject to yearly back to base inspection.

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    1. Interesting concept, Giles.
      That definitely would be within legal bounds. I'm sure I will be mulling that over in my mind. Take care.

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