I'm trying to find a way to write this without it coming off as an all out rant. I'm guessing the people I am frustrated with probably won't ever read these words but here goes.
I'm currently watching a few fetish communities I am a part of go through some difficulties because of a demographic that has been a problem for as long as I can remember in any and every type of fetish community that I have ever been a part of. The problem revolves around men that harass women.
Not every medium of social interaction is a place for finding a date or partner. A random woman that a man approaches is not responsible for providing masturbation material for that man. If she isn't posting in the personal ads, assume she is not interested. Don't be creepy. I don't understand why it is so common for men to bury their head deeply in their ass and forget about any type of courtesy, manners, and appropriate behavior whem confronted with kink or fetish. This is ugly and reinforces awful stereotypes and stigmas.
Logic gets so ass-backwards that it's like people don't even realize that they have no chance in hell of impressing a woman in this way. It will push her away. If whatever you are doing would get a drink thrown in your face in a bar, why would it work on the internet? I just don't get it.
Driving away the thing you want the most is just stupid. Making women so uncomfortable they want nothing to do with the community is just stupid. Internet communities shouldn't have to be police states to be successful.