Ms Marie's recent post Sapphic Tendencies got me thinking again about my post from July on the Lesbian Fantasy. It's kind of eerie how some of the same details are in both of our posts. I don't really know why but whenever this type of fantasy trickles its way into my brain I tend to feel a twinge of guilt, followed by a sigh and a mumble of "typical male fantasy."
After reading her post I did some thinking on it and tonight I re-read my post and found a few areas that I didn't cover during my exploration of it the last time around. In my earlier post I focused mainly upon the role change and diminished personal relationship between the Domme and male sub.
Isolating the case of a FemDom, a Fem sub, and a male sub, where the Fem sub receives preference/status over the male, I noticed a few new areas to think about. How does this differ from say, a FemDom and two male subs? What does this say if a Fem sub was added to an existing FemDom/male sub relationship (or vice versa)?
A case with two male subs is a pretty easy read assuming that both subs probably have similar types of requirements and may possibly serve similar roles in the relationship. One may receive preference (usually whichever one was there first), but both are male subs and they probably know what to expect from the relationship.
Adding a male sub to a Lesbian D/s couple is fairly straight forward. The male would be brought in to do the grunt work and to be dumped on when it's convenient. This makes sense. So why is the reverse case so intriguing?
This is where my typical male fantasy probably takes over. I know there are Dommes out there that would probably treat a male sub and female sub equally, but in my own mind and as painted out by Ms. Marie, what about that scenario makes it so difficult to shake?
This time around I was able to see some new insights into this and the male ego crushing effects of it.
-The Fem sub is a sub that exists solely for pleasure. The male sub never had that role. Even when he was used for pleasure he was still there for pain. He might wish that it was him in her role and there was someone else lower down to take the brute force and tedious duties. The Fem sub gets to experience his fantasy and that's something he has never, nor will ever taste. This can be easily rubbed in his face for shame/jealousy.
-She hops into her role but his role is changed. It's sort of like taking a pay cut... it hurts because you once got more for the same thing. Now that she's here he just lost his status, pleasure, and attention. All of the grunt work with less (if any) reward. Every time the Fem sub is called to bed and he must sleep elsewhere would have to sting.
-Since they are both women and both are given power over the male sub, it's almost like the Lesbian D/s dynamic is pretend or momentary... a means for mutual pleasure and enjoyment. The Femdom D/s dynamic must feel like a harsh slap in the face in that light.
-Forbidden fruit. He now has another set of curves to fantasize over. I don't see much in terms of sexual interaction between the two subs being permitted here except maybe some extreme teasing or assistance during play.
-Women are territorial. I don't know a single Female sub or switch that placed in this situation, that wouldn't go out of their way to monopolize the Domme's attention. I know there are Fem subs that exist that would not, but I don't personally know any of them as they often wish to be invisible around anyone other than their Dom. With this in mind, the odds that the male sub would receive any positive attention is rather small.
This seems to clear some things up but geez... this still manages to turn me on something fierce every time I think about it.