I've noticed that whenever I hear a Domme make a general one line statement communicating her philosophies on Femdom, D/s, BDSM, etc. my mind tends to race and I'm often guilty of getting a hard-on as my mind races to process the implications.
I think that's what makes a one-line phrase so powerful, that it give implications but keeps them open-ended so that almost any situation not directly covered by the phrase is put in its place. I've heard many of these phrases over the years and it would probably take me several hours to record all of them but they never cease to strike a chord in my submissive soul. Even ones I don't agree with will often linger with me for years, slowly changing my views until I find myself responding to that philosophy.
I'll try to list off some examples here...
"All boys should be kept in chastity."
Implications: males can't control themselves (nor be trusted to do so), aroused males behave poorly, a woman should dictate when and how a male can have sexual pleasure, etc.
"Only dominants should be allowed to wear black."
Implications: black is a powerful color and any submissive being should have to wear something less powerful. Less powerful being...
"A sub should be punished regularly to keep them in their place."
Implications: a sub that isn't punished regularly will be belligerent, a Domme doesn't need a reason other than this to punish their sub, a sub that carries some fear will be better behaved.
"Sissies should be kept (butt) plugged to remind them of their status."
Implications: a sissy is of lower status, discomfort and anal penetration is suitable for low status, sissies should never forget their are of lower status.
"A good sissy maid is seen but not heard."
Implications: a sissy maid should not be permitted to speak (or should be kept gagged), good service doesn't require talking.
There's hundreds more that I can't seem to remember right now.
Does anyone else have any of these lines that really stayed with them? Or for Dommes, are there any of these philosophies that you like to use/share with others?
I am not a big fan of these 'one line phrases of dom-philosophy', as they are often too general and too narrow-minded. They often sound as if a domme would try to create universal rules of D/s... 'This phrase is correct and should be standard for all people in this lifestyle.'
ReplyDeleteFor example:
- 'All boys should be kept in chastity.'
Oh, and everyone who is NOT keeping a man in chastity is doing it wrong? What if neither domme nor sub have a great chastity-fetish? What's the use of this philosophy if the persons involved prefer other activities and a different approach?
- 'Only dominants should be allowed to wear black.'
Says who? The law? The Holy Bible? The 100 eternal rules of BDSM? *lol* Another needless principle. It's acually very easy: If a domme wants to allow her sub to wear black, she should. If a sub enjoys to wear black, he should (if this is not an infraction on his dominant's order).
Etc.
There are unfortunately too many fundamentalistic 'I know the way of true BDSM'-dommes and too many fundamentalistic 'I am holier than you'-subs who love to force their own philosophy on other people, even if their 'victims' are happier with their own style. I like to read about different experiences, but I hate it if someone tries to teach me what is best for me or my submissives in such an absolute and dogmatic way.
So I prefer to ignore these 'one line phrases'. Wants, needs, phantasies, lifestyles are too complex and too different to put them into such phrases.
~ Deborah ~
Oh, well, perhaps I DO have 'one line phrase':
ReplyDelete> Don't fuck with other persons' lifes. <
But this applies not only to bdsm, but also to any other kind of human relationships and contacts. I believe that's not the worst approach. :)
~ D ~
Deborah,
ReplyDeleteI don't consider any one-liners to really hold tons of water on their own, nor do I ever think there's one "correct" way to have a D/s relationship (the way I stratify various types of Dommess and subs should probably testify to that).
I just find there are some that can make a sub's head spin (in a good way) from time to time when it comes to fantasizing or approaching Dommes they would really like to serve or wish to avoid. e.g. someone who hates chastity might avoid a woman that uses the chastity line but someone who lives chastity might throw himself at her full on.