Sunday, March 12, 2017

What punishment is to me

It's kind of interesting that I've thought a lot about punishments today.

In addition to the blog I found I was also asked about this by a Domme friend earlier today.

I am not perfect.  I want to be perfect.  Perfect is not just accuracy of action, it is a state of being... a state of mind... an ideal that we chase even though it is impossible to ever reach it.  I have always been of the school of thought that if you put all of your effort into something impossible, you will be closer to it than if you didn't try at all.

Perfection is complete love, adoration, and obedience.  It is putting her desires to the forefront of my mind at all times.  I will fail.  I always do.  My best intentions are never enough to take me there. 

Perfection is the ideal attitude... always eager to please and happy simply for the chance to serve.  I comply not out of fear but because my perfect self is happy to be useful to her.  I will fail.  I always do.  It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but it will happen.  I guarantee it.

Perfection is the purity of my desire to see her happy.  The purity of placing her needs above mine.  The purity of graciously accepting what she gives to me and never desiring anything beyond that.  I will fail.  I always do.

Perfection is executing every act with total accuracy, mastery, proficiency, and speed.  It is only showing the best version of my capabilities.  It is doing every in just the right way every time.  I will fail.  I always do.

I am okay if she expects me to be perfect.  This means that she believes in my potential and has faith that I can be the best version of my ideal submissive.  That is the goal that I chase.  I feel if I reach it that I will have worth and be proud of myself.  I seek it because it will make her the most happy with me.  If I find it, I may even feel worthy of her love.

To me, punishment shows her faith in my potential.  It shows her willingness to be patient with my shortcomings and guide me to the right path.  She saves me from mediocrity and helps me improve myself in my constant quest for perfection. 

I am not a masochist.  I do not crave her disappointment.  I suffer when I let her down.  I suffer when I fail my expectations I have for myself.

I may never be perfect but I want to be.  Perfection is what she deserves. 


  1. I love this part...
    To me, punishment shows her faith in my potential. It shows her willingness to be patient with my shortcomings and guide me to the right path. She saves me from mediocrity and helps me improve myself in my constant quest for perfection.

  2. It's hard for me to imagine having a D/s relationship without punishment, and I've found over the years that none of the subs I've dealt with would want to be unpunished if they disappointed me. It's part and parcel to the dynamic, at least in any but the newest of newbie relationships. Many of the scenes in the fiction series you write recognize this reality, as fiction fur feels even more love for Cass after being punished, sometimes quite brutally. The punishments acknowledge the depth of her caring, as I'm sure you agree. Sometimes it just "hurts so good", as an erect penis will attest, but in all cases it's a necessity for advanced D/s relationships, in my oh so humble opinion:)

    1. Thank you, Lady Grey.

      I tend to believe that it's easier to make a perfect sub than it is to find a sub that is perfect. I think that punishment dynamics are too often seen as a set of consequences or extra work and this overlooks the intimacy. I feel these times strip a sub down to their most vulnerable state and forces them to see themselves in a truthful light. There's no time for wallowing in self-pity, there's only the painful reminder not to make the same mistake and to do better in the future. I have found that words spoken during punishment seem to carry twice as much weight as during any other time.

      fs definitely goes through what you described within the story.

      Take care.