Wednesday, March 29, 2017

30 Days of submission: Day 9

Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? 

Contextually speaking, "limits" seems like limits on behavior and not "hard or soft limits" so I will answer it from what makes more sense.

I accept and thrive under structure, rules, and limits.  The more clear they are, the better I do to comply.  As for expecting them, I understand that providing and enforcing rules/structure, and limits takes effort on the Domme's part so the extent to which she wants to provide and enforce them is something that I also accept.
How do you feel about them?

The way I see it, the better I am able to be what she wants me to be and make her happy, the happier we both are.  The more time and effort that she is willing to invest in providing and enforcing rules, the more that I feel she cares for me in ensuring that I am what pleases her.  

I do not expect her to bring about rules that she does not enjoy monitoring or enforcing as this violates one of the principles of the relationship.  

That being said, the stricter the rules and harsher the punishments, the deeper I fall into subspace and the more devoted, obedient, and loving I become.


  1. Rules and limits help create structure in a D/s relationship, and structure can be paradoxically "freeing" for the sub whose goal is to please the Dom as often as possible. Solid structure leaves less room for mistakes and gives the sub a clarity of purpose and performance, and it also makes life easier for the Dom. It's much simpler to monitor a sub if a structure is in place, and as for enforcing and punishment for violating the structure, well, that's just fun for a natural Dom.

    All that being said, it's sensible, desirable and even more fun for a Dom to change the rules now and then once too much complacency sets in for the sub. Keeping the poor dear unbalanced is one of the many joys of being in charge, at least for me. I do love to see his brain adjusting to the new norms I put in place. A little "puppet on a string" syndrome? Well, of course:)

    1. Thank you, Lady Grey.

      I agree completely with everything you have written. Structure does provide a lot of clarity by removing the guesswork.

      That unbalanced feeling is definitely a joy for subspace, although the mind sometimes processes it as "anguish."

      Take care.