Tuesday, April 4, 2017

30 Days of Kink: Day 15

Write about a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.

Aaaargh.  K, please don't judge me as a wanker here.  I've just been lucky enough to have experienced the majority of what I have ever wanted to do, so there aren't too many things left.

One scenario is being in a situation where there is another femsub that "outranks" me.  If the Domme is the alpha, the femsub is the beta, and I am the omega.  While the other sub submits to the Domme, both are able to exert dominance over me.

(Quick pet peeve: I hate it when people misuse the alpha/beta thing.  There is no such thing as an alpha sub.  Do about 3 minutes worth of research on pack dynamics and focus on the role of the beta and this will make total sense).  

Another scenario would be serving multiple Dommes at the same time.  While I'm sure there are particulars that might be more interesting than others, I'll just leave it in a general sense here.


  1. I couldn't help you out with your first scenario, as it would involve dominating a female, but your second scenario is something I am very familiar with. In my college days, my friend Vanessa and I often "doubleteamed" male subs. It was great fun for us, but somewhat brutal on our victims. Keeping 2 Doms happy is no easy task. I hope you get the chance, fur. You'd undoubtedly find it challenging:)

    BTW, why would either scenario cause you to be viewed as a wanker? Maybe I'm missing something in translation. How would you define "wanker".

    1. Thank you, Lady Grey.

      I can only imagine what those poor subs must have gone through. I have this sneaking suspicion that it wasn't good cop/bad cop, but probably bad cop/bad cop or possibly bad cop/worse cop :)

      I think part of the appeal to me is that it would be too challenging, leading to inevitable and unavoidable failure.

      The term wanker is a derogatory term used to criticize subs that overly fantasize (often with no real world experience). They often get out of control contacting Dommes, in chats, or on forums attempting to rope people into their fantasies so they have masturbation fodder.

      This sort of relates to your comments on the Day 14 post about fantasy vs. reality. I fear that by sharing a fantasy (even as a writing assignment) that it may lead to me being labeled in a negative way. It may be an irrational fear, but I do worry quite a bit about how others perceive me as it also affects how they treat me. The disclaimer is mostly for people who may have found this as the first blog entry they chose to read.

      Take care.

  2. Thank you for the translation. I always thought wanker meant someone who masturbates to excess. Don't the British use it that way? I suppose I'm out of fashion with many terms these days as I don't participate in many of these BDSM social sites.

    1. You're welcome, Lady Grey.

      It is frequently used under the assumption that they were masturbating while typing... and end up messaging Dommes in a rude or inappropriate way.

      I believe that is the British slang definition but I am not 100% sure.

      Take care.