30 Days of Kink: Day 17

What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

I would have to believe that most people would cite Dommes and the stereotypical porn outfit of leather and PVC to compliment her whips and chains.

In my case I would go at the notion that submissive men are weak pushovers.

In my opinion, it takes a lot of courage to be willing to buck conventional gender roles and accept that you are submissive.  To seriously open yourself up and make yourself vulnerable is scary as hell.  Cowards need not apply (and they usually run away).  To dedicate yourself to the happiness of another person is not an endeavor for the weak or the meek.  Can someone without strength or courage make anyone happy?  No.

Also, I've never met a sub IN A RELATIONSHIP that was a doormat.  Most subs in lifestyle relationships are funny, intelligent, and interesting people.  This is what is required of a life partner.  

So yeah, let's get rid of the image that a submissive male is just some wallflower that is incapable of thinking for themselves so they do whatever they are told.  It doesn't work that way in the vast majority of relationships so I don't even know where that idea comes from.