Slave Competition Game

In Lady Grey's post, Roadblocks, she is going to be having a slave competition between her sub and some others.

In attempting to come up with some ideas under the parameters (it should be winnable and not cause any significant harm to a sub) here is one idea that I came up with.

Obstacle Course Race:

-Subs should have their hands locked behind their back.
-Subs should have an 18 or 24" spreader bar locked between their ankles.
-A modified ball parachute with a round tray mounted underneath it.
-A round object such as a ball or a hard boiled egg placed on the tray.  The less perfectly round the object is, the easier it will be to keep it balanced.

Optional:
-Difficulty could be increased by adding a butt plug.

Subs must maneuver a simple obstacle course while being timed without dropping the ball off the tray.

If the ball falls off the tray they must retrieve the ball and bring it back to the starting line where a Domme will deliver a hard swat to each butt cheek and return the ball to the tray while the timer continues to run.  If the ball rolls somewhere that the sub cannot retrieve it they will be disqualified and punished (the idea of a Domme having to retrieve the ball for them just seems wrong).

The sub with the lowest time to complete the course wins. 

Here are some shitty sketches I made in 3 minutes before I have to leave for work:

Ugh...

Part of why I've been blogging and drawing so much is that I struggle from depression.

When it starts "tingling" I go out of my way to fight it off, usually in the form of setting goals or tasks for myself to complete and then going at them full-on.  I can feel my resolve starting to falter a bit.

Part of it is due to the weather... I live in an area where it's going to be cold as hell and covered in snow for the next 3+ months so even things like going to the store that's 3 miles away can seem like a chore.  This in turn leads to some shut-in status and weight gain which doesn't do much for self-esteem.

While those are factors, the primary thing is that the holidays have a lot of terrible memories for me.  The kind of deep-rooted shit that has carved some big emotional scars that have kept me struggling my whole life.  Last year I vanished from the internet for a few months working to get myself back on track and I'm hoping to avoid that this year.

So... if you read this blog (and hopefully enjoy it)... your comments and requests help give me a goal to work towards and keep my head above water.  If there's anything you like, don't like, want to see more of, want me to talk about, want me to draw, etc. please let me know.  Comments, email, even just saying "hey" on my chat box... those all keep me going.

Sorry if this makes me seem like a whiny-ass bitch, I can just spot the signs of my depression kicking in early on while I still have the power to beat it. 

Humiliation Boutique - December's sales Meeting

This sets the premise for my next set of Humiliation Boutique drawings.

Humiliation Boutique - Job Interview

This one isn't one of my finer works... but it sort of continues along with the previous one.

Seated Striking with a short tool

This is the basic mechanics of an over the knee spanking.

Based upon what tool you intend to hit with and how much physical damage you wish to inflict, it may change the way you sit, your grip, and where you should place the target (e.g. the sub's ass). 

For a heavier-weight tool such as a wooden paddle or large hair brush, you will probably use a standard grip in most situations.  For deeper bruising you are best off using a legs forward position.

For a lighter-weight tool such as a ruler, slapper, wooden spoon, slipper, or strap, you can use an overhand grip if you want to deliver quick, repeated blows with a satisfying smack on impact.  You can use a standard grip if you want to hit deep and cause bruising.  Use legs back for the quick stinging blow and legs forward for a deeper penetrating blow.

*A quick note:  focusing on pulling the bottom of the handle will make the striking surface of the tool move faster than if you try to move the striking surface. 

As you can see the mechanics are similar for both strikes with a couple of small differences. With a stinging blow the focus should be on quickness instead of power (the power is generated by physics rather than muscle strength) and you stop upon impact rather than continuing to "pull through" the hit. 

One other difference of note is that you may have better luck shifting the target position depending upon what style of hit you are attempting. 

For penetrating blows the target should be placed (on your lap) along the right side of your body (assuming you are right handed, switch to the left side for lefties). 

For stinging blows performed with the overhand grip (and sometimes penetrating blows with the overhand grip), you may find you can hit harder if the target is placed (on your lap) at the center of your body.

One way to practice these techniques is to take something like a wooden spoon and try to perform the motions while standing.  You are better off staying as relaxed as possible until you near the hit point.  You can adjust things as necessary.  Your goal with the spoon is to make the "swish" of the air be as high pitched as possible, since that means the head of the spoon is moving faster.  If it makes something like a whistling sound, you are generating tremendous speed.   

Biomechanics - Hitting with Power

There are two factors that determine hitting with power.  The first is velocity (the speed the striking surface reaches before impact).  The second is force (how much power is delivered upon impact). 

Physics basics 1:
Speed = Velocity = change in distance / change in time.
Acceleration = change in velocity / change in time.
Force = mass x acceleration.

What this means for punishment tools:
A heavier tool can deliver more potential force if it can reach the same or greater speed than a lighter tool.  However, generating equal or greater speed with a heavier tool is generally only possible with downward strikes. 

With a horizontal or upward motion there will be a limit to how heavy a tool can be before you start to lose a significant amount of speed and control.

To the best of my knowledge there isn’t a lot of standard terminology used to describe methods for corporal punishment so I am creating my own.

Grip and wrist orientation:

Overhand Grip – This is the type of grip orientation you would use to hit a tennis racket or slap someone (backhand or forehand).  With this type of grip the wrist moves parallel to the striking surface and is the final determining factor in power.  This grip’s strength is dominated by the thumb and index finger.

Standard Grip – This is the type of grip orientation you would use to split firewood with an axe, pounding a hammer, or delivering a karate chop.  While the wrist has some motion, this grip derives most of its power from the elbow.  This grip’s strength utilizes all of the fingers in the hand.

What this means for punishment tools:
The overhand grip is better suited for shorter tools (under ~12” in length for rigid tools and under ~36” for whips/floggers) and will work for both rigid and flexible items.  The thicker the handle gets, the less force this grip can deliver.

The standard grip is better suited for longer tools as well as heavier tools.  It is very strong with long rigid items or longer whips with a bit of girth/weight to them.  This grip orientation loses less power with increased handle thickness.

Two types of strikes:
-A Stinging blow.  This is the boxing equivalent to a jab.  Quick and compact, it will smack hard on the surface with a lot of sting upon impact.  This is best suited for lighter weight tools that will reach a high velocity and the focus force is delivered to the point of impact.  A quick slap with a crop or leather paddle that reddens the ass comes to mind here. 

-A Penetrating blow.  This is the boxing equivalent to a right cross (think knockout blow).  Deep and painful, it will drive hard into the point of impact with the intent to bruise and/or split the skin.  This can be performed with any type of item but the heavier the item, the deeper it will hurt as it delivers force beyond the point of impact and into the underlying tissue.

Most tools will use an overhand grip to perform a stinging blow and a standard grip to deliver a penetrating blow.

Biomechanics - The Physics of Corporal Punishment

This is mainly for the Dommes that read here, but I was curious about something.  I have a background in sports instruction/biomechanics and could diagram some of the techniques and physics for things like:
-How to deliver the hardest slap with a paddle/slapper/hairbrush with the least amount of effort.
-How to achieve the greatest velocity (or greatest destructive force) with a crop or cane.
-How to vary the motion in order to create a quick, biting sting vs. a deep, penetrating bruise.

Would there be any interest in this?

I know it might seem kind of wrong in some ways, learning flogging techniques from a male sub, but I figured since I have the knowledge I may as well offer to pass it on.  It's so odd that the methods for hurting someone are the same methods used for hitting a ball, etc.

Humiliation Boutique - The next steps

I think with the next steps I'll do a mix of drawings followed by a "meeting" type drawing that sets up the next sets of themed drawings.  I'm not really sure though, but that's what I'm thinking right now.

In all honesty I would love to turn this into a comic sort of a thing but I'm just not good enough with backgrounds to do that yet.  I do have some characters in mind but I'm not all that confident that I can make them look similar in each drawing as well :P

I should add that I will probably be taking a small break from drawing on weeknights so I can catch back up on sleep.  Also, feedback/comments are always welcome.

Humiliation Boutique - Tenth Salesgirl (caption drawing)

This will be the last one of this series (following the sales meeting drawings that kicked this off).  If I do more they will be of a (similar yet) different theme.  (I suppose it would have been nice if I had posted this the first time).

Humiliation Boutique - Ninth Salesgirl (caption drawing)

Humiliation Boutique - Eighth Salesgirl (caption drawing)

Humiliation Boutique - Seventh Salesgirl (caption drawing)

Humiliation Boutique - Sixth Salesgirl (caption drawing)

Humiliation Boutique - Salesgirls Four and Five (caption drawings)

Humiliation Boutique - Third Salesgirl (caption drawing)

Humiliation Boutique - Second Salesgirl (caption drawing)

Humiliation Boutique - First Salesgirl (caption drawing)

I was going to wait until I had a few done but I ran out of steam tonight and only finished one of them so far.

This is supposed to be a follow the drawing on the previous post named "meeting-jpg"

A random observation

Based on a few of the Domme blogs I follow it's refreshing to know that the tendency to grow increasingly dominant over time seems to be just as noticeable as my own tendencies to grow increasingly submissive over time. 

Go figure :)

Sissy Fantasy: Humiliation Boutique

Lately I've been toying with the idea of doing some sort of on-going series/story/comic type of a thing but each time I tend to run into obstacles preventing me from doing so.  Usually it's something along the lines of being too complicated to draw, requiring significant background art, etc.

After having some pretty good feedback on my shopping fantasies that I targeted at Kimberley and reading about some of what Marc is going through on From vanilla to kinky, I had a few ideas swirling around in my twisted mind.


What if there was a shop that specifically catered towards providing a playfully humiliating shopping experience for single sissies and subs with Dommes seeking to humiliate them publicly?  Assuming said shop did in fact provide a relatively private safe haven for shoppers, they could probably get away with some rather enormous markups on products since they are technically selling a service that would be paid for with the items. 

The scenario my mind has been wading through is of this type of shop with the clientele being primarily single sissies with a few Dommes with sissies in tow.  The sales staff would be trained to tease, humiliate, and arouse the shoppers knowing full well that an aroused male has difficulty saying no.

This type of fantasy tends to turn me on in many ways.  A specific scenario, a catch-phrase here and there, etc. are the staples of fantasy, but for some reason I get way more "into it" when trying to develop the "back end" of the business model.  This is probably because I know some of it would be very effective and the thought of men (myself included) being taken advantage of always tends to get my head spinning.

Some examples:
What type of earnings potential and benefits would need to be present for a woman (dominant or not) to be willing to do this job?  Assuming there would be a constant stream of customers what type of mark-up would be needed to make this happen?  What kind of discount could be given to women shoppers yet still keep profitability intact? 

Male workers could easily be lured in to provide free volunteer help.  What kind of basic carrot (beyond the D/s environment) would be necessary to keep them coming back?  How badly should their rights be abused in order to weed out the wannabes from the dedicated workers?

How would business decisions be made?  What type of "market research" would be done?  What would the store rules and policies be?

I know this is probably better reserved for fetish fiction but there's plenty of these scenarios I've wanted to draw.  I may go further into this but I was curious if anyone had feedback first.  I have done a couple of drawings (one of which is a "lazy artist" type with minor changes to an existing drawing) covering some behind the scenes stuff and if I keep going it will likely be a mix of interactive shopping experiences as well as following specific workers across a given day.  I guess I'm also curious if people would be okay with single character drawings with a caption or if they need to have both characters present?  It seems that some of the better pictures I use for models are better suited for the single-character type... which leads to the question if people prefer the situation or the women in my drawings.  Feel free to chime in. 

Women's orientation:

male orientation:

A sales staff meeting:

New Drawing

I was originally going somewhere with this but it didn't work right for what I was trying to do...

so I figured I would just post it as is.

Turning her Lesbian

I know I just made a post about the dangers of unrealistic fantasizing, but if you've read my blog for a long time you have probably seen that I do enjoy analyzing and trying to get to the root of particular fantasies and how/why they get to us.

I probably seem like a broken record with this... but this is further exploring the Lesbian Fantasy.... which I realize I have done several times already here:
http://furcissy.blogspot.com/2010/07/lesbian-fantasy.html
http://furcissy.blogspot.com/2011/01/revisiting-lesbian-fantasy.html
http://furcissy.blogspot.com/2011/03/cuckold-and-multi-sub-scenarios.html

I know there are a number of women out there who were the last woman their ex-boyfriend dated before coming out of the closet.  I'm sure they are cases (although much less documented) of men being the last man their ex-girlfriend dated before becoming a Lesbian.

I'm not one to consider being a cuckold... with another man.  Maybe it's my inherent distrust of men, but the thought of Mistress having sex with another man repulses me and it's something that in all likelihood would cause me to leave the relationship.  I don't mind her playing with other subs, especially those that have a fetish for doing things that I'm not a fan of (e.g. cleaning, being beaten until the skin breaks and bleeds, or having their rectum ravaged by a giant strap on). 

I have thought about what kind of psychological impact there would be if Mistress were to go full-on Lesbian (and not just bi) and cite a reason along the lines of me being inadequate as a lover or her being so fed up with men because of me that she went to play for the other team.  Of course, in this romanticized fantasy version I would be kept on as a submissive but replaced as a lover. 

I think I kind of view this as being beyond emasculation and is probably the death of the male ego.  

I think the appeal on some level is that you are kept at arm's length from what you want but can never have again.  The suffering and distress of that position is one that appeals greatly to my subspace.  You can keep tacking on extras that push it deeper and deeper:  chastity with no hope of release, no underlying love/care to serve as protection from real damage, forced fem as a caricature of femininity, having your income confiscated so that you have no independence or freedom, etc.  The other big (fantasy) kicker is, of course, that her Lesbian lover will harbor disdain towards me and be as cruel, if not more cruel than Mistress. 

Could I be happy in this situation?  I guess it depends upon the other factors.  Happy probably isn't the right word since I would surely be unhappy, but at the same time if the situation was as perfect as a fantasy it would probably be a tough situation to ever leave even if I was unhappy.

I am well-aware that this situation is just a fantasy.  If a sub was that inferior as a lover and person, she would almost certainly give him the boot as soon as she found a new lover (nor would her lover likely be okay with her keeping a male ex around).  I do find it particularly arousing though.

We did attempt to role-play this scenario in the past but had trouble finding a compatible femsub.

Romanticizing Fetishes in Fantasy

While I don't get a lot of people contacting me, I find a large number of the ones that do are seeking a Domme and ask me about how to find one.

There are a couple of common characteristics I have found with these subs:
1. They have little to no real life D/s experience (that they haven't paid money for).
2. They have allowed their fantasies and fetishes to become over-developed before pursuing the lifestyle.

#1 is no big deal to me, everyone has to start somewhere, but #2 is crawling with problems.

As subs, especially before we have taken the plunge into the lifestyle there's usually a fairly long transitional process as we develop into submissives.  It usually follows some sort of cycle of being very turned on by a non-traditional means and fantasizing about it, feeling fucked up about it and trying to make it go away, and after several iterations of the first two, finally coming to acceptance that this is something we don't want to live without.

If this process takes too long and is too intense (often assisted by fantasy-based fetish fiction) there's a tendency to develop a romanticized view of the D/s lifestyle and what their role will be within it, complete with theatrics and their perfect fantasy Domme.  I generally try to steer them towards my tips for courting a Domme but this often falls on deaf ears (or blind eyes). 

All subs would love to have this fantasy life.  Those of us within the lifestyle have usually developed more reasonable expectations of it or managed to learn to crave what She enjoys.  In this way subs that have a fetish for domestic servitude and performing unsupervised chores have a leg up on the competition (a whip-cracking task-Mistress standing over you while you clean the toilet isn't a reasonable expectation).  Subs that have a thing for suffering on any level (mental, physical, emotional, sexual) are also pretty well-suited for the lifestyle although it can be difficult to find a demanding/cruel enough Domme to be a good fit.

Overall, there's a word for subs that have to have things the way they are in their fantasies:  single.  If it doesn't do anything for her, she probably won't do it.  If you are out seeking a D/s relationship the best advice I can give is to try to keep your fantasies in check and make an effort to steer them towards things that make sense for her:

She will probably enjoy hurting you physically (without causing permanent damage).
She will probably want you to worship her body.
She will probably want you to perform domestic tasks.
She will probably want to do some tease & denial but she will probably expect your penis to perform for intercourse as well.

Assuming you are seeking a loving relationship, the above characteristics are probably a fairly safe assumption to make.  For most things beyond that (chastity, feminization, pegging, torture, branding, etc.) it really becomes hit or miss and that is more of a good fit/bad fit situation. 

It's not sexy, but fantasizing about yourself as someone worth talking to and being with is far more beneficial to your cause than fantasizing about being a naked slave sleeping outdoors in chains in a pile of your own feces unless you end up finding a Domme that wants to have an unemployed slave that doesn't really contribute to her personal life. 

I love this coat...

... and I think it would look great on a Domme except I would make a couple of changes.

The number of straps/buckles is a bit over the top.  I like how they taper the fit but dropping the number down to 1-3 of them would give more of an hourglass shape definition.  Also, the top strap is a bit on the high side, where instead of pushing up the bust it seems to hold it down and steals from its femininity. 

Overall very nice though.

Third Wheel

Drawing weakness

I realize just how limited my drawings are by the fact that I suck ass at drawing backgrounds.  I know I should practice/learn how to draw them... but it is of relatively little interest to me, especially when they will take as long or longer than drawing the people in the drawings. 

This is where I feel I've hit a wall. 

My all-time goal for drawing was to be able to draw a woman sexy enough to masturbate to (sad but true).  I feel like I'm reaching that point (although it's not perfect) but I'm stuck deciding if I want to develop a more complete ability or just keep working on what I enjoy doing more.

Discomfort

This is my first drawing with a fur-less sissy :P

Earmuff Headphones

It seems the headphone in the earmuff idea has finally worked its way towards the women's fashion style of earmuffs (and not just the unisex behind the head fleece kind).

I doubt they're the noise-blocking kind I wrote about a while ago in a post on sensory deprivation but oh well.

The previous post about this is located here.

Runaway sissy slave

By popular demand...

So... the past few shopping drawings have been very well-received.  I had been trying to envision a few situations Kimberley has been in and how they might feel. 

With that in mind, if I had to title this one it would probably be "Kimberley's Nightmare." 

I did a caption but realized it was almost becoming a story by itself so I figured I would post both since the caption drawing is very cluttered.

A little sport

Another one for Kimberley

A drawing for Kimberley

I changed to a slight recoloring on the woman in black as her flesh-tone was a bit off compared to the rest of them.

 

Some differences in D/s relationships

Some comments on the blog From Vanilla To Kinky - Our FLR Journey led to a few lengthy responses on my part when there seemed to be a fundamental difference in points of view between the blog authors and some readers.

The text that I wrote about this and was quoted on in their most recent post is:
"In this realm of D/s you'll find two different types of relationships. The first is one rooted in BDSM protocols. In these types of relationships they are generally established on a mutual grounds of consent and the rules primarily apply during periods of play (although they often bleed over into more aspects of life). In this situation, hard limits are often seen as an absolute law that aren't to be broken without prior consent from both parties. Many of the established rules were designed to protect female submissives from maleDoms that might otherwise cause significant damage to them.

The second type is one that exists outside of these rules (you can call them what you will, Femdom, 24-7, FLR, etc.). In these types of relationships, the consent is to submit and you are at the mercy of whatever that submission may entail. Things like safe words and hard limits are more like a suggestion (than a boundary) to the Domme, one that she may consider but will ultimately have the final decision on.

I have been in both styles of relationship and they are quite different. I am guessing that you probably viewed your relaxing of a hard limit as a meaningful gift, a symbol of trust catering towards something she was wanting to try out.

In a BDSM-rooted relationship, you are correct and there are probably many Dommes that have come up through the BDSM community ranks that would find that gesture endearing.

In a 24-7 sense, it was overstepping bounds. You cannot gift what is theirs to take. Taking pride in giving such a gift is something that would probably get smacked down... hard."

I wanted to elaborate a bit on that and I figured it would be better to post that here rather than hijack their comments for me to drone on about something that is no longer related to the post.

I was re-reading the quoted text tonight and while I know I generalized (there's way more flavors of relationships than just those two, but those two illustrated what needed to be conveyed), I feel I can strip it down another level.

The first type of relationship can probably be better described as:
A D/s relationship based upon mutual consent towards mutual pleasure.  Both parties agree to the terms of the relationship and both parties seek to create pleasure for each other.

The second type of relationship can probably be summarized as:
A D/s relationship based primarily upon her pleasure.  The sub's pleasure is either coincidental (kink overlap), incidental (situational fetish), or granted by the Domme (usually out of love/consideration) but it should not be expected nor be a focal point. 

The second type might seem rather harsh, but it seems to be special types of relationships that make it there. Some are relationships that evolve to that over a long period of time where the Domme gradually becomes more dominant and the sub gradually becomes more submissive.  Others often involve VERY dominant women that have a great deal of experience within the lifestyle.  Their subs know what they are in for and can usually only hack it if they have a deep submissive nature and a lot of kink overlap.

Drawing - Domme ensemble

I really like this ensemble. 

A drawing for Kimmy

I had a caption in mind but this falls more into the portrait category.  It would have read something along the lines of "I got a matching one for you, too."

Push & Pull: The Mind-Fuck and Conflicting Emotions

This is another post related to some things I wrote recently on Marc and Cleo's blog.  

I've recently had a few chats with a sub that has very similar fetishes to mine: being force feminized and humiliated with a lot of fur involved.  In our chats he mentioned something that really hit home with me and that is the idea of conflicting emotions.

I've felt conflicting emotions many many times but I've never described it so simply.  It's such a simple description but I understood exactly what he meant and it took so very few words.

This is really the core of the mind-fuck: to put a sub in a position of intense conflicting emotions of both extreme arousal and extreme emotional discomfort. 

Very few Dommes really do this well, probably because it really requires a wicked cruel streak to get off on watching your sub having a huge erection while crying tears of shame.  If it doesn't get her off, she has no reason to do it (well), and I just don't know that many Dommes that really enjoy it.

As a sub, I guess I'm a bit twisted.  It tends to be the emotional conflict that turns me on and deepens my subspace more than the activity itself.  Without the humiliation, forced feminization is meaningless to me.  I have no desire to be a woman, dress as a woman, or be able to pass as a woman.  I do desire to be forced to half-assedly dress in some women's garments and be mocked for how stupid I look.  I would be terrified if any "outsider" saw me, but being seen and laughed at by a (female) "outsider" turns me on.

I guess this shows how far I have come to terms with myself as a submissive.  I'm no longer embarrassed to state that I am a submissive and enjoy kinky activities (almost all of our vanilla friends and my parents are aware of this).  There was a time when the threat of having this exposed was mortifying.  As I have come to accept my submissive nature as a part of me, the fear is gone.  On its basic level the idea of being exposed as someone who enjoys bondage or body worship can no longer be used as a mind-fuck without a lot of creativity.

As I constantly write about, I'm not comfortable with nor readily accepted myself as a sissy.  I doubt I ever will.  This will probably leave me open to mind-fucks on this subject for the rest of my life.  Part of me is at peace with that because I hate to think what the next step would be if I needed something even more intense to get me off.

As to what inspired the subject matter of this post...
The sub I was chatting with gets mind-fucked a LOT.  He referenced being forced to try this on at a store as the only time he was brought to tears.

To this day, one of my biggest mind-fucks was having my Mistress at the time make me try this on in a crowded department store.  I was so humiliated I thought I was going to throw up and/or cry but I managed to tough it out with a bright red face, unable to speak or lift my eyes from the ground. 

Constant Pressure - Chastity Experiences

 We've been having some great discussions over at a newer blog called From Vanilla To Kinky - Our FLR Journey.  One of the topics we touched on recently included chastity.

I know that I've written about that before but Marc and Cleo have been stopping by and reading so I felt it was more appropriate to elaborate on this subject here rather than clogging up their comments on a topic that was a minor part of the discussion.

As my long-time readers know, I have some limited experiences with chastity.  I've never worn a CB for an extended period of time but I have worn them from time to time and we own three of them.  Chastity is a subject that brings up many mixed emotions in me and it's complicated to the point where I barely understand it (but I will try to in this post).  I am not really a chastity enthusiast but there are some special things it is capable of doing.

One of my ex's (after we were no longer together but we remained on decent terms) developed a super hardline approach to chastity.  "All male subs should be kept in chastity all the time.  They just can't stay out of trouble without them," is what she said to me during one of our chats.  When I asked if they should be allowed out at all, and if so, how often, she responded, saying once or twice a year is more than enough.


My first reaction was "oh wow?!" both at the fact that she said that and even more so that I had an erection.  Would I want that?  No.  Could I handle that?  Probably not well.  So what was it about it that got me going?  The thought of being with a woman that would be so strict and cruel that she would enforce that upon me, half under the guise of keeping me well behaved yet mainly rooted in the idea that she would love watching me suffer in a chastity belt. 

After thinking about it for some time, I realized I actually agree with her reasons.  Chastity belts can have such a powerful effect and they hit home in many different ways.
-As a preventative measure from touching without permission.
-As a deterrent for misbehavior: behave or you'll stay locked up another week/month/year. 
-As a symbol of ownership: she who has the keys owns what's inside.

-An increase in submissive awareness: every time you even attempt an erection you'll remember.
-An easy target for a mind-fuck: to him, release might be the most important thing in the world but for her, it probably doesn't even matter so she can mess with it all she wants.
-A perpetuating submissive loop: it turns him on that she controls him, but he can't get it up which reminds him that she controls him, this turns him on, etc.

I'm sure I could rattle off at least 20 other things but it's probably obvious what I'm alluding to.  Basically, there's lots of benefits from enforcing chastity. 

There are subs out there that are completely capable of exerting enough self-control to not "cheat" by playing with themselves.  However, this situation usually involves constant D/s interactions keeping him in subspace so that he won't drift into fantasy and rub one out.  If your day to day lives have factors preventing such interactions from happening regularly, he will probably slip up at least once in a while.  For many Dommes, once is still too many.

Even under circumstances where he is completely obedient in this regards, a chastity device is a big slap in the face.  "I know you're obedient but I'm going to lock you up anyways." 

A few quick notes before I proceed.  I have a very tight scrotum and tender skin, both of which make budget-friendly devices (under $400) very uncomfortable for prolonged wear.  I am not circumcised so removal for daily cleaning also adds to the inconvenience. My current Mistress is not a chastity enthusiast so we have never desired to budget for a more expensive belt that would fit me well for prolonged wear.

When I have been in chastity, it's ripe with inner conflict.  The idea of the CB turns me on, so my penis constantly tries to get erect, only to have the CB prevent said erection and make me horribly aware of the situation.  This in turn arouses me that I'm being forced to wear a CB and I try to get hard... loop loop. 

It's a hard feeling to describe but it puts sexual frustration off the charts.  One time when wearing one Mistress put a fur scrunchie on over the belt and behind the balls.  Every time I moved got the fur rubbing against my scrotum and the base of my penis.  It was heaven and hell.


An odd bi-product is that I have found when in a CB my nipples get extremely erect and sensitive. 

Something I'm not sure of is that I think I get turned on by the idea of CB's because it's a controlled situation where I know it will be removed soon (within 12 hours).  The idea of being locked up for say, 3 months, is more of a fantasy than realistic event that I would ever want to experience (stupid male syndrome), yet this still turns me on. I think I can chalk this one up to the abused slave fantasy although if I were ever able to experience a belt that didn't hurt I'm not 100% sure on where I stand.  I love to orgasm but I can openly admit I'm a better sub when denied and frustrated.

Mistress locked me in chastity the first time she pegged me and I think that really increased the intensity of my feelings on the subject.  The "this is for my pleasure and you'll have none" aspect of it had me into the deepest subspace I've ever experienced.

Femdom as and Economic Theory - Dommes and Monopoly vs. Oligopoly

Monpoloy Power

In a perfect world, a capitalist system functions under the theory of perfect competition.  The idea of perfect competition has a few underlying principles, but the basic outcome of this theoretical model is that both buyers and sellers are "price takers," and accept the prices determined by market equilibrium. 

As I have described in previous posts, the D/s relationship "market" is far from ideal.  If Dommes are sellers and subs are buyers, this system of imperfect competition closely resembles that of a monopoly, with Dommes holding an immense amount of market power.

A monopoly has several distinguishing characerstics:
-There is only one seller of a particular commodity.
-There are no close substitutes.
-Other parties are barred from entry into the market.

Dommes set the "price" and all subs have to concede.

As I had originally started to write this I found the last characteristic rather bothersome because there's really nothing preventing more women from becoming Dommes, so the "market" being this biased is a bit interesting.

Hypothetical: Evolving into an Oligopoly

Hypothetically speaking, if enough new Dommes appeared to shift the sub to Domme ratio from ~26:1 to something closer to say, 6:1, the behavior of the market would change a little.  While the market would still favor Dommes, the Dommes themselves would more closely resemble an oligopoly. 

To make things easier (and more realistic), I am working under the assumption that all subs do not grant equal utility to Dommes.  Subs that are more physically attractive, financially stable/successful, most loyal/obedient/capable in their submission, etc. will yield more utility to a Domme than typical or mediocre subs. 

While Dommes are still in the minority and are in control of the scarce resource, they must now consider the behavior of the other Dommes seeking subs in order to attract the subs yielding the highest utility.  Basically, they can still be in the position of power but they may have to be willing to make certain compromises to maximize their utility or the Dommes with the most favorable terms (read as: the most enjoyable kinky activities for the subs) will likely end up with the "best" subs.

It is, however, unlikely that the number of Dommes will quadruple any time soon so this probably won't be too significant of a threat.  I also find it rather interesting that Dommes can put themselves at a disadvantage by having more Dommes around.  

Femdom as an Economic Theory - More is better: Poly-relationships, Imperfect Substitutes and Composite Utility

I'm doing my best to keep the economic theory to a bearable amount but still include enough to reach an understanding of how it explains what actually happens in D/s courting.  In this post I will likely candy coat the basic ideas of the theory since if I tried to go in depth it would likely bore the shit out of everyone.

At the end of my post on Perfect vs. Imperfect substitutes I touched on Dommes generally being more discerning than many subs. 

Utility

Economic theory often deals with an idea known as "Utility."  Basically, utility describes the amount of "goodness" someone receives from something.  Perfect substitutes occur when choosing one item over another yields the same level of utility.  Imperfect substitutes occur when choosing one substitute (lesser) item yields less utility than another (better) item. 

Dommes are often faced with the challenge of considering or accepting subs that yield less utility than their ideal sub (read as: they aren't as happy with a good "fit" sub vs. a perfect fit sub).  Their perfect sub probably doesn't exist, so substitution is a very common practice in D/s courting.  The challenge then becomes finding a sub that is "good enough" and trying to shape him to something that is as close to perfect as possible.

Technically, the economic theories on utility generally work based upon a fixed income and/or describe what happens during changes in income. However, as I wrote about in my Barter System post, Femdom is a scarce and valuable resource. 

Maximizing Utility through Poly-relationships

If a Domme realizes her services are an extremely valuable commodity, she can in turn increase her "buying power" tremendously. That is, rather than settle for one imperfect sub, she can take on multiple subs that together can meet every one of her desires and maximize her utility. 

e.g. one sub is her emotional lover, one sub is her cleaning maid and money slave, one sub is her big cock for sex, one sub is her intense pain slut, etc.

This has its advantages as she never has to go without something she wants and there is less emotional attachment to individual subs if they ever decide/desire to leave.  It also sends a strong message to subs that they are replaceable if they don't meet her performance expectations. 

There is a Limit

While it might seem perfect on paper, the more subs that are present the less attention each sub will inevitably receive, reducing their utility.  Also, the number of subs capable of functioning as part of a stable over the long-run (even if they say they can) is relatively small. 

While this idea may have its flaws, I can see many cases where it would probably yield greater utility for a Domme than searching for one perfect sub. 

Femdom as and Economic Theory - Perfect vs. Imperfect Substitues: Discerning Dommes and Idiot subs

This post somewhat builds off of the last scenario I wrote about in my Barter System post and is also rooted in the Theory of supply and demand..

Substitution as an economic term refers to people consuming/purchasing one good instead of another for various reasons.    
A perfect substitute is an item that is consumed that yields the same amount of  "goodness" (utility) as a different item.  e.g. If Pepsi goes on sale, people will increase their consumption of Pepsi and decrease their consumption of Coke.  Similarly, if the price of Pepsi goes up, people will increase their consumption of Coke and decrease their consumption of Pepsi.  In either case, the total amount of cola consumed will remain pretty much the same.  In this example, Coke and Pepsi act as perfect substitutes.  

Why some lonely and single male subs can be super annoying

In many cases, Dommes in a particular area often know each other.  They often see each other at munches/play parties/gatherings or at least correspond every so often on the internet.  One of the biggest headaches for Dommes in a particular area is often a couple of subs that are so starved for dominance yet oblivious to manners and etiquette that they end up being a pain in the ass to every Domme in the area.

When 22 women in one city receive an email from one person saying "u should dominat me" and includes a picture of their dick, you can be fairly sure that this person will be shit-listed by all of them.

On occasion, you'll also find a few subs that aren't as stupid but still seem to make the same general mistake:  contacting all of the Dommes within a relatively short period of time.


Desperation tends to breed this behavior and this behavior indicates that a sub in this state treats Dommes like perfect substitutes.  No Coke?  Pepsi.  No Pepsi?  R/c.  No R/c?  Shasta... and so on.  They are so starved for domination that they will take it in any way, shape, or form.  No matter how you look at it, it wreaks of being pathetic.  Unfortunately, this is also a product of the drastic inequality of Femdoms to malesubs, so the tendency for this to happen remains consistent with the economic theory.

Discerning Dommes

Dommes tend to approach courting in a very different way.  Dommes tend to treat subs like imperfect substitutes.  That is, taking on a sub who is a poor fit (usually) yields less "goodness" than a sub who is a good fit. Rather than trying every available sub she will likely key in on ones who she feels can meet her needs or is of a frame of mind that could be easily molded to meet her needs. 

Oddly enough, Dommes that are overtly cruel and prefer subs that hate what they do to them will almost always search with a similar, if not greater amount of discretion.  This is an odd scenario where her good fit is a poor fit for him, so it requires a sub that has the capacity to endure both mentally and physically under those circumstances.

Femdom as an Economic Theory - Adverse Selection and the Lemon Problem

At the end of my Barter System post I briefly discussed some of the negative aspects of being one of a few Femdoms confronted with an over-whelming number of malesubs.

These problems are rooted in a couple of economic theories that were developed in order to describe certain types of market failures (market failures = when supply and demand fail to establish a perfect equilibrium).  

Asymmetric Information, Adverse Selection and the Lemon Problem

Asymmetric information is a term that refers to a situation when one party has better or more complete information than the other.  Adverse Selection is term referring to market failures due to "bad" outcomes occurring based upon asymmetric information. 

The Lemon Problem describes the market for used cars and is the most common example used to describe this situation. A person selling a used car knows exactly how it has behaved over time and what problems it may have.  A person buying a used car only knows what the seller tells them, which may or not be completely accurate/true. 

Let's say:
1. A perfect, great running, used car should sell for $10,000.
2. An unreliable, problem prone, used car of the same year, model, and features should sell for $4,000.

The buyer doesn't know if the used car will be #1 or #2 (or somewhere in between).  The actual selling price will likely be somewhere around $6,000-$7,000.  This is considered a market failure since good cars sell below what they are worth and bad cars sell for more than they are worth. 

The same used car may sell from a dealer for say, $9,000 since the dealer will likely have done a thorough inspection and offer some sort of warranty, but that is outside the scope of this post.


Why this makes it harder for subs

This same type of market failure happens frequently in D/s courting.  The sub is like the used car and the Domme is the buyer.  Good subs will sell themselves as good subs and bad subs will also sell themselves as good subs.  It's (almost) impossible to tell good subs apart from bad subs without spending a significant amount of time with them. 

This leads to several problems. 
Many good subs will get passed over while being mistaken for bad subs in disguise.   
Many bad subs posing as good subs will be chosen (and discarded), making Dommes even more skeptical towards subs in general. 
It becomes next to impossible to truly sell yourself for who you are.

I know many Dommes that have developed intensive evaluation and testing periods in order to weed out the good from the bad.  While I think that it is wise of them to do so, I think it's a bit of a shame that it has to be that way.

Femdom as an Economic Theory - The Barter System and Double Coincidence of wants

The Barter System

The evolution of money came about as a solution to the inconvenient method of trading known as the barter system.  The barter system is trading ones' own goods or services in exchange for goods or services the one is seeking.  Instead of trying to trade a day's labor for a bag of salt or 20 rabbit pelts for a bushel of wheat, it was easier to work a day's labor and be paid in money to buy the salt directly or sell the rabbit pelts for money to buy the wheat.

The principle governing success of the barter system is known as double-coincidence of wants.  This occurs when the trader and tradee each want what the other is offering.  Unfortunately this can be a very difficult task depending upon what one is offering and what one wants. 

How this applies to Femdom relationships

BDSM relationships are often described in terms of their "fit."  Fit rarely describes personal compatibility but usually focuses upon commonalities in desired kink.  I won't comment on whether I think this is a good priority to have, I will just accept this is how courting usually occurs (although I will note that successful relationships of any kind usually requires good personal compatibility).

Dommes and subs seeking a good "fit" closely resembles the double-coincidence of wants.  In most cases, you can think of someone's kinky desires as both what they have to offer and what they desire in return. 

Why Femdoms hold all the bartering power

As I wrote in my post on Supply and Demand, the numbers are stacked in favor of Femdoms.  Basically, for every one woman offering wheat, there's 27 men wanting wheat who will have to meet her demands to get it.

An example
male submissive X wants:
-Domination.
-A fetish-model sexy Mistress.
-Frequent kinky sex play. 
-Light bondage.
-Light physical punishment.

Femdom A wants:
-Complete devotion and submission.
-Gainful employment / financial manipulation.
-Well-educated conversation. 
-Strict chastity and orgasm denial.
-Intense corporal punishment and torture.
-Cuckolding.
-Branding/tattoos/piercings.
-Full domestic service.
-Body worship.
-Frequent cunnilingus.
-Humiliation.

Is Femdom A a good 'fit' for malesub X?  Hell no.  Will malesub X fore go his own wants and be willing to bend to Femdom A's demands?  Probably.  Does that make malesub X a good fit for Femdom A?  If he'll go along, why not? 

This is also rather inconvenient for Femdom A.  If her demands are that strict the number of malesubs truly offering it are probably scarce as well.  However, since she holds the power any sub that meet her criteria and will bend to her desires pretty much works out.  Her greatest inconvenience is weeding out the fakers to find those truly willing to sacrifice. 

I will cover more on this in my next post.

Femdom as an Economic Theory - Supply and Demand

The Basic Theory of Supply and Demand

Economic Theory is pretty much all based upon the theory of supply and demand.
The premise:
At a given price, consumers will demand X amount of a product.
To increase demand, lower the price.
To increase the price, lower the amount supplied (below what is demanded at its current price).

Scarce Resources and the BDSM Pyramid

It is generally accepted in the BDSM community that there is a pyramid-like hierarchy of orientation representations when it comes to BDSM preference.  The actual numbers are sometimes debatable because it's common belief that male subs are over-represented on the internet but I also believe they are under-represented at BDSM functions.  However, the order of the levels in the pyramid are never really questioned.

 
In my estimation (taken from both the internet and BDSM functions), the percentages are probably something like:
Female Dominant: ~2%
Male Dominant: ~13%
female submissive: ~32%
male submissive: ~53%

This means there is an approximately 2.5:1 femsub to Maledom ratio, but more than a 26:1 malesub to Femdom ratio. 

The inequality leads to a special type of supply and demand interaction known as scarce resources.  No matter how limited the supply, demand tends to remain the same.   The end result is inflated prices and excess demand.

Basically, Femdom Nation is OPEC and male subs are the automobile driving public.  No matter how "expensive" domination is, male subs will pay it, and regardless of the price, most male subs will be left out in the cold without it.  Unless there's a drastic societal change, this situation won't change any time soon as there's no electric car equivalent to femdom. 

Conclusion

Since the number of male subs so drastically out populate the number of Femdoms, Female Dominants have every advantage in both courting situations and D/s relationships. 

Femdom as an Economic Theory - Introduction

So... I was surprisingly motivated to write tonight (mostly stemming from my first stint of real commenting earlier this week on Lady Grey's blog) and I decided to theorize about a few things that really explain a lot of the inequities of the D/s lifestyle (beyond the lifestyle itself).

Femdom relationships, most noticeably the courting process and raw numbers can almost all be explained through economic theory.  I'm not sure if this is really useful to anyone, but it should hopefully shed some light on things especially for subs seeking Dommes and for Dommes seeking subs and weeding through the applicants.

My apologies in advance if these posts get a bit garbled and they may require previous writings to adequately describe the situation.  I will try to provide back links in those cases. 

Feedback is always welcomed.

Halloween

So... Halloween is coming up again.  This time is always strange to me when it comes to forced feminization because it's a time when things open up a bit. 

Sissies have the freedom to shop for pretty much anything and simply cite that it's for a Halloween costume.  Similarly they can dress how they want without having severe social repercussions if they are "going to a Halloween party." 

Due to this, I've often seen many sissy assignments be ordered to perform "at a time other than around Halloween." 

I guess I'm curious if those who still struggle being outed would feel more comfortable being on display around this time of year than any other.

Gangbang

I don't got your money

Sissy chic

Chic (as well as the often-misused couture) is a common buzz word every few years to describe a new fashion trend or fad that by the time it receives it's label, is probably over-used and reaches a point of poor taste.

Whether it's hippie chic, sassy chic, shabby chic, etc. or whatever, what about sissy chic or sissy couture?

While there's many different flavors of sissies: TG, TV, CD, submissive, fetishist, etc. it seems the trends in sissy fetish clothing tends to remain pretty much the same year after year (with the exception of transgenders that have truly become passable as women).

Silk or satin panties tend to be the norm, but which style is the most "in style" for sissies?  Thongs?  Bikinis?  Briefs?  Is there any consensus?  Is there indifference as long as they're panties?  Panties don't really do it for me but if I had to go with humiliation factor as a deciding mechanism I'd have to vote for ruffle-butt.  I could just be biased that this was the first style that my first Mistress ever used upon me.

With socks there's often a general consensus for lacy ankle socks if it's not stockings or leggings.

Skirts and dresses are generally favored over pants.  If they have legs at all it's usually something like hot pants.

I guess I'm curious if others have any thoughts on this. 

Things I just don't understand by being male

Last year I made a post about not quite understanding what defines "cute."
This post is of a similar nature.

While doing a few recent drawings it has become abundantly clear to me a few things I just don't understand very well about women's fashion.  I'm very observant when it comes to fit, cut, and lines as well as color contrasting.  My talents (at least that's what I've been told by several women) include matching styles to moods and impressions you want to give, how to accent curves, etc.

There are three things that really come to mind that I definitely don't understand.
Make-up.  Accessorizing with jewelry/bling.  Judging prints and patterns on fabric.

Make-up is an odd one.  I know why women use make-up and I can tell when it is done well and when it's done poorly.  I can understand what is too much, and when certain types of "too much" can be very style-defining.  What I don't understand is the theory behind make-up (aside from eye-liner).  I don't know what shade of lipstick is "supposed" to be used with a given ensemble or look.  I don't understand the appropriate ways of using blush and eye shadow.  I'm sure there's writings about them somewhere, I just haven't taken the time to read them. 

Accessorizing is a different story.  When I was in college or high school and sat in one place for a long period of time I could always notice certain types of bracelets, rings, earrings, belts, etc. that were particularly flattering, style-defining, or just plain cool.  In terms of first glances, most accessories don't strike me unless they're done in very poor taste.  This makes me wonder why women emphasize jewelry and accessories so much.  I know that other women tend to notice these almost immediately, but most men do not.  I have even been given credit for noticing them after 30 minutes of boredom and wandering eyes.  So are accessories mainly for women to impress other women (or to show off money)?  Is that all? 

My lack of understanding on the subject and the disproportionate amount of time it takes to draw an intricate ring, necklace, or belt buckle probably explain why they are usually absent from my drawings.

Prints and patterns are a nightmare to draw in my drawing program.  When shopping with women I rarely am drawn to items with fancy prints and patterns and I'm usually taken by surprise when someone picks out some print and goes "I just LOVE this!"  I'm usually a bit puzzled and thinking, "why?"  I guess I tend to stay away from things that appear "noisy" or "distracting" from the female form, but most women I know are often drawn to particular styles of prints.

I know I'm probably not the only male that doesn't understand these things, but it seems almost second nature when women do understand these things. 

What to do next?

I'm kind of surprised at some of the votes in my good/bad/weird options considering I don't receive a lot of comments to feed off of.  It's not so much surprise, I'm just having trouble getting a firm grasp on what people like (or don't like) seeing.

What I have been able to put together:
-People have little interest in my "portrait" style drawings, where it's just a woman unless it's on the risque side of things and/or keys into a specific fetish (e.g. really big fur).

-BDSM/Ds scenes must involve an active interplay between the Domme and sub, with the exception of lesbian scenes where the sub is in the background.

-Humiliation and degradation are most popular.

 -(Almost) no one really cares about any of my fashion-oriented postings.

-There isn't a lot of interest in my more cerebral postings.

I'm not really the type to cater completely towards people want (unless it's in common with what I also like/want), but I guess I just haven't figured out how to draw readers and spur a lot of conversation on what I do write and draw.  I'm open to suggestions. 

A request from mittens

Mittens from the blog Wrapped up sent me a request. 

Doing this drawing made me realize just how far I have to go, especially when it comes to drawing objects when I don't have a good model to work from.  I tried to crop this one fairly small in order to hide my embarrassingly bad semi-attempt at 3-point perspective.

I have included both the color scheme he requested as well as one that's a bit more sissy.

So big...

Sissy for sale

So... I thought this one would have been finished and posted a few days ago but I just wasn't content with how it turned out.  After several iterations (including alternate characters) I'm still not really content with how it turned out but here goes.