30 Days of Kink: Day 26

What’s your opinion on online BDSM play? Or online D/s Relationships?

Having spent a lot of time separated from my Dommes I try not to look down on relationships that use a heavy amount of phone, skype, chat, and the like.  I think that online serves as a good starting point for getting to know someone.  While it's impossible to get to know everything, you do learn quite a few things that people may hide in person, and if you start out as friends, you may learn a good number of things that people would not have shared otherwise.  Once a comfort level has been built, it makes meet ups a bit easier and less awkward.

Interacting a lot online (phone/skype/chat/sexting) trains the mind a lot.  You learn to enjoy their company and it gets tiresome to only talk about the same things so it naturally leads to a lot of topics of conversation.  Also since there aren't actual physical cues or actions you can take, it can sometimes be easier to understand what lies at the core of a Domme's/sub's kink-psyche.

That being said, I'm not a huge fan of relationships that start online with the end goal of being online relationships.  There are cases and reasons where this makes more sense than others, but too frequently people use it in a cheating sense or because they aren't brave enough to venture into this unforgiving world.