I tend to view subspace as a spectrum. You have your shallow emd and your deep end. I believe that subs tend to crave a "comfort zone" within this spectrum that generally matches up with their desires, kinks, and fantasies. For example, a sub that wants D/s in a "bedroom only" environment likely lingers in the shallow end. A sub that craves intense and depersonalized TPE type slavery falling into the deeper end. I believe the majority of subs fall between the extremes, probably somewhere between the 25% and 75% marks of those two extremes.
There are quite a bit of reaources out there describing subspace but the majority of the popular resources are focused upon female subs. I'm not going to try and argue the differences between submission by gender, but I have found the sexual and paychological connections are frequently wired a bit differently for subs falling in the middle half of the spectrum.
As for male subs... I pretty much have myself as a reference point. I have been told many times over that I'm "different" than most, but I rarely get a complete answer as to how or why so I have no clue if my views represent "most subs."
What I notice is that the deprh of my subspace shifts quite a bit based upon actions, environment, strictness, and so on. I'm guessing this is quite common. Mild dominance = mild subspace. Intense dominance = deeper subspace.
For the "shifters" out there, or Dommes who have experience with subs that shift and adapt as needed, do you find the submissive personality changes when you are pushed sufficiently deep?
I find that in its shallow form, I'm basically an attentive amd doting boyfriend that notices everything and focuses my attention upon her. I cam converse, have a strong sense of humor, tease a bit, and am quite functional. In these cases I connect to bondage and body worship as my deiving factors.
As I progress deeper, things change quite a bit. My thoughts adjust so that I am no longer included in them, e.g. "What would she like?" "What would make her happy?" And so on. There is no "I" anymore. In this middle state I can anticipate needs, take care of anything without complaint and abide by whatever rules she sets out. In these cases I connect to domestic servitude, corporal punishment, CFNM, and the like.
At my deepest levels, everything changes. My persona basically strips down to 3 emotions: fear, remorse, and love. I love her and will do anything for her. I fear her and what she will do to me If I disappoint her. I feel remorse upon disappointing her and receiving punishment. My entire sense of morality changes: right and wrong become pleases her and displeases her. While this deep I can barely speak. My voice is tiny and timid. I require rituals to act "independently" but require commands or instructions for just about anything else. All I can think about is her and pleasing her. In these cases I connect strongly to humiliation, speech and eye contact restrictions, rituals, pain, and helplessness.
Another interesting aspect is that the kinks I that affect me most profiundly are not what I connect to while in a "comfort zone," they are the things that pull me out of a comfort zone and force me deeper down the spectrum.
Is this normal? Is this different? Any thoughts or feedback? There are times when I feel like I have 3-4 different subs inside of me.
As a random note, I refer to its depth because that's sort of what it feels like. Being dragged into the depths, light slowly fading away, eventually surrounded by darkness at the bottom.